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The cycle of Abuse: Incident * Any type of abuse occurs (physical/sexual/emotional) Tension Building * Abuser starts to get angry * Abuse may begin * There is a breakdown of communication * Victim feels the need to keep the abuser calm * Tension becomes too much * Victim feels like they are 'walking on egg shells' Making-Up * Abuser may apologize for abuse * Abuser may promise it will never happen again * Abuser may blame the victim for causing the abuse * Abuser may deny abuse took place or say it was not as bad as the victim claims Calm * Abuser acts like the abuse never happened * Physical abuse may not be taking place * Promises made during 'making-up' may be met * Victim may hope that the abuse is over * Abuser may give gifts to victim You can find out more about abuse at the Domestic Violence Website. If any of this sounds familiar, please check it out. Niki C.
"Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work; it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart." |
