http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/feed http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/feed en-us Copyright (C) MDJunction.com. All rights reserved. Mon, 17 Jun 2013 21:40:18 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10760824-rudeness-etc#10760824 :sick: Hey tonight my husband came home and was rude,rude,rude...I help him find odd jobs on the computer and he started giving me grief because I didnt see this one ad on the computer that he could have done(the work)I help him and he is so mean spirited. Then he went on about how I need to fax his hours to his boss tommorrow.When I told him to leave me some money for a fax he went on and on about it. I told him the kids needed some things tonight and that we were out of groceries and he st... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 21:11:41 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10753308-marriage-or-roomates/limitstart/30#10760648 Those were my thoughts exactly. If he refuses to sign, then I will pursue child support. Not only that, but his actions will be EXPOSED and I highly doubt a judge would be very compassionate about his displaced position, since he would essentially be displacing his own kids! My oldest son said that if his dad doesn't sign, then he will never speak to him again. I will find out tomorrow. Time is literally of the essence.Post edited by: sharpwoman, at: 06/17/2013 07:24 PM... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 19:20:57 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10759307-help-i-screwed-up/limitstart/10#10760583 It's amazing to me that even after this time, his hurtful words can casue such a phsycal (sp) reaction in me. I've been sick to stomach all day.... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 18:49:28 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10745562-emotionally-abusive-and-controlling-husband-partner/limitstart/10#10760421 First of all don't bring him along to your appointments. I used to do that, that was the only way at point to make him see I really had Vertigo and had to have a MRI--it shut him up for a while. Our insurance is the same way, under his name, I just go, make the appt and email him the day I go---- right now ,because we live as roommates not as husband and wife--I don't care....I am so fed up putting my health second to his, I have done it for so long.... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 17:18:39 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10760406-i-cant-stop-feeling-like-nothingness#10760406 Everyday, since 3 months since she left me, I feel like nothingness everyday. I go to work, put a fake smile on, and drive back home where I do nothing. I live in a small town where I know one. Im on the verge of crying every night. I know shes seeing a guy. A guy shes cheated on me with. And its so difficult to see her mentally unstable self project to the world how happy she is. Its a horrible, ugly, deflating feeling. I want to get better. I dont know what to do.... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 17:14:46 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10758883-fathers-day-continutedthe-saga-of-dad#10760145 Well I guess it is what it is....I will accept the help that he gives and be glad they divorced when they did. And realize that he will never, ever, see my side of it completely. My sister died at 33, my Dad changed after that, I am his only kid now and he has been trying very hard since my sister died, parts of me wondered if my sister --her name was Robin, if she somehow did that to teach him a hard lesson---it has changed him--it change all of us, but most of all him.... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 15:31:19 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10757158-has-anybody-else-been-here/limitstart/10#10759981 The one about wanting the bad boy boyfriends.People aren't trying to say that I am/was abusive are they?God I hope not!... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 14:02:20 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10758274-hmmmmm/limitstart/10#10759917 i just reminded myself of a story B) my buddy walked into work full of chaos and unhappy customers who started attacking him with their complaints and frustrations. he said whoooa put his hands in the air and said give me a minute to get my shit together. i mean really-what are they gonna say ??? he got remanded in private for his language- but it worked... the abuser does not want us to get our shit together. they dont want us to have any power. they want us to have NO control. and even wh... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 13:41:33 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/introductions-personal-stories/10758056-lonely-and-losing-hope/limitstart/20#10759905 With regard to the telling the truth about your abuser, I always think of it this way ... cockroaches hate the light. Think of the light as truth and darkness as their lies. They run and hide from the truth. The much prefer the darkness where they can grow and thrive. Telling the truth makes them run. They can't stand it.... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 13:37:03 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/introductions-personal-stories/10675276-19-years-old-emotional-abuse-survivor/limitstart/20#10759783 and ya know-i realize the inconvenience part of changing your phone number, but you can let the important people know your new number and start over. its doable-just like when you move you need to change address and home phone, if people really need to get a hold of you they can find a way. maybe the rest really dont matter... i know how awful it feels wishing they would call ( :sick: ), how my adrenaline rushes (in a bad way) on the rare occasion that he does call or text. i most times wont an... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 12:51:39 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10758539-seeking-validation-from-abusers#10759569 You make a good point, Coffeemate. We have to be very careful who we seek validation from. It's like taking medicine. When you take it to treat a condition, it's good for you. It helps you. When you take it when there is nothing wrong with you, it can hurt and even kill you.... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 11:08:43 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10748623-whats-your-pdoc-like/limitstart/10#10758864 H's visit with the pdoc went better than i expected this time. We managed to have a semi-normal weekend, went on walks on the local trails, had some decent conversations, but too much drinking later on. I went to bed on Fri and Sat night to get away from his drunken crap so it didn't escalate, and read Lundy's book on my smartphone's kindle app.... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 05:03:56 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10757207-seeing-things-as-they-really-are#10758742 An abuser is NEVER honest....this is my counselor's words....it hurts to put them with my abuser...yet it is true!...I wish Santa Clause did exist....and mr. wonderful were true...just like in the movies...like the Ghosts of Girlfriends Past , (with Matthew McConaughey, Jennifer Garner, Michael Douglas, Emma Stone. A bachelor is haunted by the ghosts of his past girlfriends)..where the abuser CHANGES!.... ...BIG FUCKING LIE! ..so much influenced my gentle and innocent mind....now working at re... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 01:54:52 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10672620-wasting-your-time-on-unpleasable-people#10758682 oh meg-this is why i wish i could read mdjunction every day and not get behind on posts B) bless your heart for staying ever patient and diligent on saying the right thing at the right time, even before we need it :) if i would have read some of these articles sooner i may not have even posted some of my discussions. anyhow i cant remember how i linked to this one, but my point is THANK YOU for your patience and staying the course... Mon, 17 Jun 2013 00:03:20 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10757532-kids-how-much-to-tell-them-about-the-abuse#10758385 meg thank you for sharing excerpts from this book as well... Sun, 16 Jun 2013 19:55:54 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10753498-that-bastard/limitstart/20#10758378 lilredfaery i am glad you are venting away here-get it out here-cuz if ever there was a time to conduct yourself with grace and dignity it is now. the second he sees or hears you get emotional he is going to be cheering he's got a big one on the line.he truly is definitely baiting you. i know your head is reeling and your heart is racing, but take a deep steady breathe and lower your shoulders 3 inches every time you think of it. youre smart. act calm cool and collected whenever you can. gather ... Sun, 16 Jun 2013 19:51:02 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10751846-does-your-abuser-do-this#10758235 You guys are absolutely right. He IS the type of person to do that and HAS done it so most naturally I assumed he did it again. Jtts, your right about if you HAD said something, he would KNOW how to set you off. This has always been my downfall. It doesn't matter though because there'd always be SOMETHING.... Sun, 16 Jun 2013 18:48:02 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10748077-regarding-abbey/limitstart/10#10758194 abbey i hope you are still able to continue reading us even if we cant hear from you. i will miss you too !!!! but will continue to think of you xoxoxoxo... Sun, 16 Jun 2013 18:31:52 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10704691-feeling-confused-and-helpless/limitstart/10#10758015 sorry I was answering two different people on this thread.My bad...:)!... Sun, 16 Jun 2013 16:53:32 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/emotional-abuse-discussions/general-support/10723037-helpadvice/limitstart/10#10757948 Planning a safe exit from an abusive relationship is a necessary and important step before breaking the ties with your partner. The National Domestic Violence Hotline suggests following the these steps to improve your chances of leaving safely. •Know the phone number to your local battered woman's shelter. •Let trusted family member, friend, coworker or neighbors know your situation. Develop a plan for when you need help; code words you can text if in trouble, a visual signal like ... Sun, 16 Jun 2013 16:06:43 -0700