Hi Cinny This is a hard time for anyone. We don't keep family at arms length for no good reason, even though it is emotionally draining. I'm sure you have your reasons for doing this so write them down. also state how this made you feel ie; Dis honored, unloved, alienated. When your feeling low look at them, tell yourself you deserve to honored, loved, included. but don't ponder to long. Don't waist your life second guessing yourself. Move on. Lift your head, dry your eyes and enjoy life. Hugs! Always remember you deserve to be treated well. This was just talked about with my sister and myself. I have set aside a friend of ours. She didn't understand why. I told her it was a decision I made long ago and know it's the best thing for me. I have another situation with my In Laws but that's a long story as well. My situation has been going on for a number of years and I have found helping others help my mood. Holidays can be the worse part of it. I decided to get my mind off it by helping out some where. So, I go to a homeless shelter and help feed the homeless. I'm sure some are saying "sure?" but have you tried it? As time goes on you will feel better. The statements will be there to keep you on track. and even be a guide for future relationships. Charlotte CLAP are my initials.
Therefore do not lose heart, though outwardly we are wasting away Yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. 2 Corinthians 4:16
"Teach me the glory of my cross; teach me the value of my thorn. Show me that I have climbed to Thee by the path of pain. Show me that my tears have made my rainbows." ~Streams in the Desert |
