Dysfunctional Families Online Support Group

I'm so exhausted to be the middleman of my parents. My parents treat each other with contempt. My mum wants to teach my dad good manners, always looking disgustedly at him ( for example at dinner ) and my dad is immediatly rolling his eyes when shes telling something from work or anything else, as she would be stupid... I think my mum is depressed by it, because she's unhappy with getting older and put a little weight on, I guess she thinks she's not attractive anymore...but she doesn't fight with him but always says little nasty and tart comments to him... My daad always want compassion how hard hes working but my mum has a lot stress too! And I guess he has a girlfriend.. But because they are both in a good working position, my brother is smaller and they have many friends, they cant do anything. I can't stand it any longer, at least I would like the idea of a divorce. I always have to manage and be the middleman between them too and it's really exhausting to take care of a chat so it won't end as a "quiet-eyes rolling fight"... Any help or comment? Feeling lonely because I'm living in a small city and cant tell my friends who would tell their parents who are freinds of mine.

Hi Changemind

I'm very sorry your parents are acting like this in front of you, its not fair to you at all. I know how you could feel your in the middle of the arguments. I understand that quite well from when I lived at home. I use to leave and go to a friends house, it was just easier for me to escape.

You may want to bring up the fact to them, that they are putting you in the middle of their arguments and your tired of it.

Or even suggest therapy, it may be for the best..

I know when I caught my Dad fooling around with another woman, I told him I would disown him and get the best lawyer I could find for my Mom..LOL...I was only 19...Surprised it did work!!! I shocked myself...but I made my Mom happy for the 9 more years she had on this Earth. Thats the thing, why do people waste time arguing ?? You never know how long you will be here, so you best treat every day like its your last one on Earth.

Peace and Love to you...WELCOME TO THE GROUP!!!!

Patty

Change, welcome to the group! Since I've never really been in your position, I can't contribute much, but wanted to say we're glad to have you with us!

Hi Change

I hope your coping better now, please reply to let us know how your doing. I hope to support you with you feelings...

At least I will try my best

Caring hugs

Patty