Dysfunctional Families Online Support Group

Seek...I feel it will work out, they really can't fire you..against the law...so relax and let things fall into place naturally. Seems to work out better for me. Dont ever worry about something your going to worry about later (if it were to go wrong) then you will have worried twice for the same thing.

Right?

Well, let us know how you are doing...hope good news to come soon.

Caring Always

Patty

Seek, I definitely understand the situation you are in. They say there's one in every bunch and I was fortunate enough to go years without one of those troublemakers in our little group, but a bit over two years ago, one appeared. Thankfully it looks like she's going to be moving on. You wouldn't believe how she got a couple of managers wrapped around her finger. Well, maybe you would believe it because it sounds like a similar situation.

I'm with Patty. I really doubt that they will fire you and legally they really can't. I do understand your concern because if they want to get rid of a person, they'll do it and come up with the silliest reasons. AWWWW the wonderful world of work, right?

Thanks, I have an appointment with the psychiatrist Thursday afternoon where I find out if I go to work the next day or can stay out longer. Part of m wants to go back to work and part of me really doesn't. I am feeling the anxiety building each day. I also have so much to do for my mother's estate and I am finding it hard to do anything yet. We will see what happens.

Two weeks ago I asked my older son to bring his girl and we will grill out. I told him we eat at 6 so Ill see them at 5. It was 630 when I called to see if they were even going to come. Sure they were, but "forgot" I started the grilling and they arrived in time to eat and leave. I didn't really have any time with them.

Yesterday was my B-day. and I wanted to be clear to him about when I would like them here. We spoke Friday and I asked his plans. Everything was Ok for 2pm. When he left I told him again 2pm. I wanted to play Wii games and later leave for dinner at a very nice restaurant. It was 3pm when I called him. I told him I was disappointed, and they should spend the evening together and not to come over.

So he came home with the girlfriend!

I just couldn't help myself. I told him to leave. The girlfriend spoke to me. There was a b-day at her home for some friends. I had told her how I felt about the dinner the week earlier. I didn't want that to happen today. I also said why didn't he just say there was another party? She knew nothing about me asking them to be over at 2pm.

He's my son and if he didn't want to spend time here he should have just said so. To be honest I knew he didn't want to miss a meal at this restaurant. My husband, younger son and I went on as planned to the restaurant, Some how it was a good night. I had a glass of wine, maybe that helped. Today it really bothers me.

Did you all see the moon last night? it was so bright we could see our shadows.

Post edited by: claphappy, at: 05/06/2012 04:14 AM

Yes Clap, I would be upset too, its natural to feel left out when our kids grow up. But he really should of called...

I read this early in the morning...no sleep at all last night.,

Zithromycin just takes awhile to get in your system..doc said it better work sounds like its going in the lungs, not good.

But I really dont care...you see I dont care because no one in my life cares...its just me and my Lord...and my son..thats it.

So , I'm sorry..when I get sick, I get confused very easily..

Claphappy I am so sorry you had so much trouble from your son on your Birthday. I am glad you did get out with your husband and younger son.

I hope you are feeling better Peace77. I know how you feel as far as no one caring, I frequently feel that way especially when I am not feeling well. At this point it seems like my son is not really talking with me. He is in the military and far from home and he use to call me every weekend but lately I hardly ever hear from him.

I am lucky I have some very good friends from church. I don't know what I would do without them.

Clap, So sorry your son didn't call you at all. Good grief, it's not like he wasn't reminded. I'd be so upset as well.

My husband started crap with me last night, but I have my son in-law to blame, and I will have some words with the boy. Instead of calling me about the plans for Mother's Day, he calls my husband, and asks him to talk to me about it. Then he brings it up to me last night, and I told him with all I'm going through I don't know. I have to watch what I eat, plus I really didn't want to travel an hour to go to a stupid restaurant. If I would've been there anyways, it'd of been okay, then my husband Orders me, I'll be going, due to he wants to, So is it Father's Day instead, being I'm being ordered to go? I was so pissed off last night, I was beyond mad at my husband. I'm so fed up with the kids going around me and not talking to me, and it's going to stop! It wasn't meant as a surprise at all. I would've posted this earlier, but my husband has been home all day, and I didn't want him walking in on me while I was posting this. I finally got a chance to. I'm not mad at my daughter, she probably has no idea my son in-law did this. I'm not a child, and won't be treated at one. I'm sooooooo furious!!!!! Mainly at my son in-law and my bullying husband. Argh!! Can I scream?????? GBHugs, Donna

Post edited by: DonnaEvans77, at: 05/06/2012 03:00 PM

I am feeling pretty frustrated at this moment. I just talked with my sister that lives near my mother's home where my criminal sister is and still has not left. My criminal sister's court date is this Friday 5/11 and we are really hoping she is going to spend some time in jail. I need to get my mother's home cleaned out so it can go on the market to settle her estate. I have heard that my criminal sister had put cardboard up on all the windows so no one can see in and see what she is doing. I suspect she is taking everything out of the house. I really hoped she would leave the blinds, they came with the place and really need to stay and that she will leave the stove and refrigerator. I am scared to death as to what damage she may have done to the place.

I don't have the money to fix the place and it has to be cleaned and inspected by the coop for their approval to sell it. I live more than 9 hours away and this is hard enough that my mother passed away without having a criminal sister stealing from my mother's estate.

I just hope that she is put into jail Friday so my other sister can get in and see what needs to be done to get the place on the market as fast as possible. That sister is planning on going to court to see if my sister is sent to prison as we hope and she very much deserves. If that happens she is calling the police to have them meet her at the house as she goes in just in case some of my sister's criminal friends are still in the place.

This is going to be a really tough week!!!!

I also just returned to work from my FMLA on Friday and tomorrow the interum manager wants to meet with me to go over my "new job duties". I suspect what they are. I have a former manager that is now working for a different division of the company working to get me transferred as fast as she can. She keeps telling me it will work out and she wants me to start working with her as soon as May 21 or sooner.

I am praying non stop that I make it through this really bad spell!

Seeknpeace Do all you can to keep the job. No matter what happens to the place it can be repaired. I'd even wait till the landlord wants to sue you or the estate. Is your name on the Lease? I somehow don't think so, if the place was your Mothers. Start writing things down. Having a diary helps one remember the little things. Like the day you went to police and if you got a lawyer. also the date the community place gave her notice. It could be they waited to long to serve them. write what she says to you about the place. Write it down. All the best

I don't understand...unless your sister has a lease..there is not an eviction process. Call the cops and tell them you are the executor of the will, your mother has passed and you want your sister and her freeloading friends out of the house because you have probable cause to believe that they are selling and destroying the property.

Find out what she has taken and stolen and press charges on her and she will be put into jail quickly, as soon as you file the charges...and along with all the other charges she has and if on probation..she will be a probation violator and will definetly be spending time in jail. This is crazy.