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I'm 13 and in my second trimestor. My parents ust found I'm pregnant They don't have much money and they want me to get an abortion. My bf doesn't want me to keep anymore either. I do0n't have a job and I guess it makes sense I don't really know much about raising a kid but I still have feelings like I feel sad I have to say goodbye. My mom set up the appointment. I binge drank through this pregnancy anyway. It's just I didn't think of abortion really. I thought we could grow into becoming parents. But I guess I got nothin to give the baby. I just feel sad about it. Like what kind of mom does it make me? I'm angry at my parents more now and my bf. I didn't know this would be their approach. I thought they'd be more helpful but they aren't. I guess you see people's true colors in a time of need. It just aggravates me...

I hope you will be aware that hormones are changing in you because of being Pregnant. Don't make any decisions to quickly. Really think over what you want and need.

My own Sister-in-law was pregnant about 8 months when she was told she was pregnant. She drank on week ends often and the baby was fine. I believe the baby is now in college under a soccer scholarship.

Most women morn over this procedure, but people don't allow it. They turn to another form of comfort, drinking ,drugs,etc. I have counseled many women who have come back only to say how sad the felt after the fact, after the abortion. If they could do it over again they would not do it.

If I had a vote I would say choose life. choose adoption. The loving option. Love yourself enough not to take a life, Love the life inside you to give it to a home of parents who want it so much, love and respect life. Did you know a babies heart beats at 21 days.

I didn't when I was 16 and Pregnant. I'll never forget. I did find comfort from a group to let me mourn the loss even though I chose an abortion.

1- 800- 595- 5753 CareNet http://www.pregnancycare.org/

Bring your parents there as well CLAP

P.S. I won't be online to much tomorrow, I hope you contact the nearest CareNet. You need to know all options.

Post edited by: claphappy, at: 04/08/2012 07:33 PM

You are in a very rough spot at such a young age

All I can offer you is this; your family and your boyfriend are not the ones who will live with the choice you make. YOU will be the one to live with it. Really try to listen to yourself and what YOU need, no matter which option that is that you choose. No one could rightfully condemn you for it.

well I talked to my mom more. She's right I won't be happy with if I kept it. But I was hoping I'd have her to depend on but she won't help it would be all me and I know I can't do that. I just wish the people around me were different but I can't control them. I can't do anything about them really. I guess I know it's for the best I'm just angry at them. I can't see how if they supposedly care for me why they'd do this to me...

My heart goes out to you

yea I kind of wish I didn't do it but I can't do aanything now it sucks I didn't know I have to keep on with this I just found a post abortion group thanks guys...

CareNet also has post abortion groups called HEART Healing after abortion related trauma. No one will judge you, most of the volunteers have had an abortion.

You need to get good medical care after ward as well, if symptoms arise don't put it off getting into a Dr. If you need to talk to someone there is a hot line. I don't know the size of your school, but most schools offer counseling for the kids.

You know, even though it seems like your mom doesn't care or support you she is actually thinking about your well being. You are very young and having a baby now will prevent you from going to school, from living out your teenage years without the extremely heavy burden of a child depending on you for everything. It is an intensive 24 hour care burden. And aside from that, your hormones will make you very emotional, even for a year after the birth of the child. I lost a child once, and yes it was difficult but I wasn't ready for it. Not emotionally, not financially. Remember that when the time is right, his little spirit will come back to you. When it does, you will be old enough, you will have your own house, your own car, a husband and you will be ready for it. For now, be 13 years old and enjoy it while it lasts.

Hi Tinkerbell

I know you meant well when you brought this discussion back up from 4/08...but this young lady did abort the child on the 9th of April. So this discussion is closed....I left it up without deleting the thread, because there is some good information to help young ladies whom make this decision..the choice is theres, and she made it.

Thank you for your concern over this,,,Patty