Dysfunctional Families Online Support Group

I have this very toxic person in my life, she is my sister-in-law so it is not like I can just disregard her she is always there. She has a way of making me feel useless and just plain disapointing. I know I should not let her bother me, and being a christian I should be able to love her regardless of what she does. In my mind I know all of this but I just can't get past the hurt, and I just want someone to hurt her as bad as she has hurt me. Help I don't like feeling this way, How do I get Past This. Any advice. Vickie

Someone probably is hurting her and that is why she is hurting you, she does this to make herself feel superior? Makes her feel better about herself, thats toxic that she feels the need to do that to you to make herself feel better. Try and remember that next time and maybe you can look at her in a different light.

Adelle I have tried so hard to do that I know she is unhappy and I can't help her with that I have tried and all I ever get back from her is heartache. She does this with everyone. I think she really believes she does nothing wrong and her and her son are the most important people in the world. I just need to find a way to not let her hurt me all the time. I really don't want to write her off as I do love my nephew and she would turn him against me and my husband in a heart beat. Thanks for the advice. Hugs Vickie

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. Sadly I had to write off my own brother, which means never getting to see the only niece I know. He had already started turning her against me and my son n she is only about 7 yrs old. He turned her mom against me and everyone else but I needed to get away from all the crap to keep a piece of mind. He truly is a piece of work and is definitely his fathers son which I wrote off too. It makes me sad that I will probably never see her again but I had to do it for my own good. He has caused nothing but problems for me n my son when things werent going the way he wanted it to. Hopefully you dont have to do this but its what I had to do.

Welcome Momof1

I'm so happy to see you here!!

Its so true with toxic people, sometimes its just time to say Goodbye, its sad..but I try my best to keep the relationship going..until it stresses me out so bad..I just can't take it anymore..mostly when anyone attacks my disabled son..he has severe problems..but I have been the one to take care of him...so until anyone is in my shoes, I now know..I wont take any bad mouthing about him...so yes I have let go some toxic people in my life,..Welcome to our community of people who really care..Patty

Thank you Patty n my so called brother has bad mouthed my son too n would threaten to punch him in the face n things of the sort n he was probably only 9 or 10 at that time, now 12. My son is a pretty good boy and does have disorders of his own which I have troubles myself dealing with but am still learning more about them.

Momof1son...I am a mom of 1 son as well, with disabilities, I had a BIL who had a shot gun at his door every time we visited. my son was just a toddler, I asked him if he could put the gun away. He said NO, and if you don't like it...you should have more control of your son, because he is way to hyper..or just dont bring him here...I said ok ...Bye...LOL...I did this, and his wife would ask me if I was walking down the street, and my son would be playing in the back yard with his elder cousin..She would say ..Hey where is your brat!!..

It got so bad, we just don't visit family anymore..sad...

Yeah it is sad sometimes but for the better. I guess it would depend on how they would say "your brat" or how often, to me if it would offend me or not. Idk, my son is hyper too but nearly as much as he used to be. He has ADHD n ODD too.

Mom of 1

Yes all were mean to my son as he was when he was a child..I really feel he suffers from PTSD..for all the stuff that happened to him in Sp Ed..They were brutally mean to him..He came home with bruises and fingernails marks in his arms..I alway had a problem...to deal with in his schooling, but he made it threw it despite the problem..that I am so thankful for

We have to be so careful with our kids...

Its a horrible thing to happen to a child and no adult steps in to defend the innocent? I cannot stand bullying of any kind.

we have not met yet momof1 my name is Adelle, Welcome to the group!