New to Group - BF is BP/Alcoholic

Not thinking about it isn't going to take away the desire to drink and help him to get sober, alcohol is always in our face in one way, shape or form, there pretty much isn't a way to escape it, he has to learn the tips for dealing with it, AA is a great place to start, there he will pick up the "tools" as we call them for helping him to get sober and stay sober, his therapist and doctor can help him in treating the bipolar and to stay focused on getting sober..

Drinking is just a way to self medicate because we don't want to face life as it is...in this case it might be from denial, either about being a alcoholic or the bipolar, I got sober prior to my diagnosis and now looking back on my years of drinking and drugging I see where it was my way of dealing with what was going on with me. It was my way of escape from the insanity raging through my head... Had I been diagnosed earlier in my life, I might not have started drinking and drugging to begin with.

If he truly wants help, he needs to see his doctor,

It is rough at first and there are many excuses one can make for not going........however given the chance and having a true desire to change your way of life makes it a worth while venture. There are open meetings where you can go with him for support. I also suggest that you get into Alanon as his significant other. There you will find support for yourself and ideas to help you deal with what you face as he struggles to recover and find himself. Just look in your phonebook for the number in your area and they will be glad to direct you to Alanon meetings. Good luck and hang in there......it can get better.