Drug Addiction Support Group

Stacy I appreciate your thoughts... trust me I do but unfortunately I can't let this go and just hope for the best for a few reasons. #1 that's my nature, #2 she has kids, #3 she has lost just about everything now or is in the middle of losing it, #4 her poor 72 yo mother (my aunt) is the one suffering the most with this taking care of my cousin and her kids and not having anyone else to help much. I have to get deeply involved if not for the sake of my drug addicted cousin then definitely for the sake of her 3 kids that i of course adore and for the sake of my aunt.

I did not mean let it all go. What I am saying is, you do what you can, and you've done your share so far, but don't expect her to appreciate it or comply. You can't make her do something she does not want to do. I know it is frustrating.

frustrating is putting it midly unfortunatly and everyone who knows me and knows of my own personal personal including my health issues that are caused by stress, all want me to stay away but again i can't. i sincerely doubt she'll appreciate any of it and i fully expect her to hate me and take me out of her kids lives but i'd much rather that happen than to not have her alive at all... ya know? when this all came to surface a few months back she told me a lot of things that hurt me but i didn't care and just kept trying. then i thought she was doing better but now i'm finding out she's not. so far now i've gone to all the major pharmacies in the city and have spoken to the pharmacists about her which part of me is glad i did cause now i know its definitely not my imagination since they all have her name flagged for trying to get meds too soon, but the other part of me isn't happy i did because i found that out and then some. i was able to convince the pharmacies not to fill any controlled sunstances medications for her without consulting the doctor first so that was good. i also went to see one particular doctor of hers that i wasn't sure knew about the situation. since my cousin is an RN i have no idea if these people calling in the rxs are friends of hers thinking they're helping but they're not or who they are. turned out this doctor was not aware of the problem but has promised to do all she can to help. i have one more idea that i'm contemplating.

just wanted to give a quick little update... actually not much has changed, my cousin is still addicted to her prescription medicationS and more and more proof of it is arising. i've not only been to talk to the 4 major pharmacies in my city but i also went to talk to 1 of the "mom & pop shop" owned ones and literally spent an hour speaking to the pharmacist and his wife, which by the way God Bless those 2 for being so caring!! but yes it was more confirmation that i got from them and a few other doctors names. i even found out that my poor aunt just recently was some how coursed (sp?) into paying for my cousins meds by credit card that she can NOT afford. that really brought tears to my eyes. i had to end up taking a break from all this because my ex ended up in the hospital so i took care of him but now it's only a matter of time before i build up even an ounce of more energy to go back at trying to bring a stop to this.

my cousin and her kids have now officially moved into my aunts house and things are just out of control crazy there. along with my parents and my ex, we helped move things out of her house and you would be amazed and the things we found that she was trying to throw out!! one of things my mom was able to find and gave to me to look into, was some sample bottles of Cymbalta, yet another anti-depressant, Lexapro (same thing) and something else i can't remember the name of now but i know that its a strong muscle relaxer. so obviously she's taking or has taken MANY different things to... heck who knows why... i guess to sleep and forget about the worries... i don't know.

anyways the last idea that i mentioned earlier that i'm contemplating is contacting an attorney to discuss basically taking legal guardianship over her so we can have her committed to a rehab even if it's against her will. of course non of us has the money for an attorney but i found out that thru my job i am allowed a 30 minute consult with one for free so of course i asked for the referral. i have that information now but i haven't followed up on it yet.

i guess that's it for now. i only ask for prayers for strength to not give up and take care of this as soon as humanly possible. i'm only human and i'm totally burnt from this along with my own issues. i need strength and only the good Lord can give that to me.

Hi guys!

Sorry I've been away for so long. I got to the point where I totally had to pull away from my cousins situation and take care of me and my needs.

Glad to have you back!! How are things going with you?

Melanye

Thanks Melanye!

Well things are up and down for me like usual. I am now engaged to the man of my dreams so that's a wonderful thing. My health issues are back and forth like usual.

As for my cousin I don't really even know anymore. One day she seems ok and the next she zonked out on something. I have done all I can... I've exhausted any and all of my energy. I had her children removed from her home... I've done a lot and to no avail so I gave up. She went about 2 months of not speaking to me because I called her out on her overuse of Xanax and now she's talking to me again like nothing ever happened. I'm really exhauted though.... I can't deal with her anymore... it's sad.

Does she still have her children, I undersstand her actions, its from xanax, I take it but I usually take it if my anxiety is bad and then go to rest in bed if I am writing I will pass out and wake up hours later in same position, w/ pen in my hand and journal in my lap, tv on. So I guessed she was on xanax. So she is still using.

Congradulation on your engagement, I am very happy for you, and welcome back, hope you hang around for awhile

Post edited by: anamore, at: 11/18/2009 02:27 PM

Thank you Anamore!!

I too actually take xanax on occassion but see the difference is I'm without a doubt at least 100 pounds heavier than her and my doctor has me on .5 mg while the last bottle found for her showed a full 1 mg!! That is too much for that little body but I guess she has her docs convinced that's what she needs and that she's not addicted or something. Plus that bottle came from an individually owned pharmacy... that's how she's able to get away with it. Now for whatever reasons she's called me Monday and Tuesday this week and she sounded normal so who knows. Don't know if it'll last or what's going to happen.

As for her kids, they were removed from her home and placed with their grandmother (her mom) but now she's basically staying at her moms. Like I said I just kind of give up and hope and pray for the best. I will tell you this though, since all other options have been exhausted, the next time I see her like that I think may hands will go on her and she's gonna get a little shooken up!

Does she know you have xanax, maybe she ran out and needs more, you have to be careful w/ drug addicts, she may be nice to you so she can get some xanax from you. Is she still doing prescription drugs. Why is she at her mother's because of the kids or because she has no money. She may be there because she loves her kids, don't mean to put her down, I don't know what she is like. Is she working. Maybe she sees you as her last option and may even try and steal from you. I don't mean to put her down just want to warn you what drug addicts are capable of. Maybe she still see's you as your friens so be careful. What do you think, does she see you as a friend