What to do when a parent is on CRACK?

What do you do to help your partner/friend/co-parent when they won't admit they have a problem? When you've done everything monetarily/physically/mentally/ spiritually to help that person?

Should you discuss it with your child after you've have tried to hide the fact for so long so the child isn't affected? What more can I do for the addicted parent that I haven't already?

How do I deal with my own feelings of guilt, grief, and loss associated with losing the person I love to a chemical addiction (i.e. he's turned into Dr. Jeckyll/Mr. Hyde)?

--JaneS

You need to take care of yourself. Go to meetings, read books on co-dependancy, and live your life. You can't help him until he is ready. He doesn't want help! You will drive yourself crazy trying to get him to stop, worrying, and not living for you. Set boundries with him. Don't let him take over your life.

How old is your child? They are smarter than most think, and if they are old enough, they probably already know. Ask them what they think is going on. See if they know already. Tell them the truth. Your partner is sick with a drug addiction and needs help. That it isn't their fault and they can't do anything to fix it!

It takes time to deal with the grief and pain that addiction causes. The most important thing is for you to get healthy. Get all the information you can about what your going through. Go to Narc-Anon meetings! See a therapist or counselor. Do what ever you have to to get healthy!

I'm here if you want to talk. Your friend, Chris