Drug Addiction Support Group

I appreciate everyones kinds words, thoughts and experiences. Considering hubby just went to treatment it is nice to know that there is hope. I spoke to him tonight and he seems to be doing pretty good. He knows he needs to and wants to stay and finish his treatment. Received notification today that our insurance might not pay for his whole stay. He is scared because he feels so safe there and he knows that if he came home he wouldnt feel the safety that he feels at the treatment facility. Thank go he has a family that will support him not only emotionally but financially as well. We will do what ever we have to do to help him complete his stay. He is amazed how much he has already learned and how he realizes how the drugs had just taken over his life. He says that he wont even be the same person. I don't care as long as I can have my old husband back the one that I married. He had tried quiting by himself but this experience he said has really changed him and made him realize what he has missed.

I personally started attending Al-Anon meetings last night. The people in the group were very nice and compasionate. I felt welcome and not put under pressure. I was able to speak if I wanted to or if I didn't want to. Having the support of Al-Anon and this online support group is going to be the ticket for me to be able to understand what my husband is going through and will give me the tools to support him better. I am so excited to have my old hubby back and to basically start fresh with him again. I love my husand so much.

I am so glad that your husband is doing good. In rehab they treat both the physical and psychological issues around additction. What caused his addiction? what was his life missing that he replaced w/ drugs. Once he resolves those issues, he will have a better chance of staying clean and not relapse. Do you know how long he will be there? Its good that you went to al non, it will help you understand what he is going through.

When he comes home he will really need you to start over, to begin a new life, your love and support will give him the strength he needs. keep us updated on his progress

I had my daughter and bf pushing me to get clean, no matter how many times I relapsed, they were there helping me and pushing me on. Their support made a huge difference.

We are here to help you stay strong, just write what you are feeling, release your emotions, take it one day at a time.

He is going to be in treatment for 30 days. He called again last night and he said he woke up and felt great yesterday morning. He said his mind is so clear it is crazy. He can't sleep at night because his mind is just racing. He started to keep a journal so he can write down his thoughts. He said it is just so amazing how his drug abuse hid everything. I am so thankful that he is going through this. Before he was on drugs we used to have so much fun!! Then drugs came in to his life and all that fun just dwindled away. I am so excited for him to be a functioning individual again with no drugs I love him so much!!

I am so glad that your husband is doing so much better!!! That is great to hear. I can remember when I got clean. My mind felt so clear and I actually had happy thoughts and I actually wanted to do things with my family. It was truly amazing! I am so happy for yall!

My husbands mother, step father and I attended a family education session at the treatment facility today. We had to attend this first before we could interect with the addict. It was sooo informative and I think helped out a lot. They told us that what happened in the past needs to stay in the past. Bringing up stuff that happened is not healthy. So they said start anew and go forward. I think that there is stuff that my husband has not told me and I am not going to stress about it. Because the past is the past and that is where it needs to stay. I am not going to get myself all worked up and pissed off about something that has already happened. I need to focus on myself and my 4 year old son right now while my husband is gone.

It is just so amazing how so much can change in such a short period of time. I mean in a week I have rented a moving truck, found and put money down on a house in our new town, started attending alanon meetings, joined this support group, got daycare for my son once we move. There is just so much, but it is all for the good. I am the type of person that can not make one decision. I always consult my husband or let him make the decision. Having to take control and make decisions on my own has been a huge struggle for me. But..........I am making those decisions and my husabnd is just going to deal with it.

At first I was extrememly mad but now I am just thankful that my husand got the help that he needed. I forgive him for what he has done because he is sick. I know he wouldn't have done some of the stuff he did if the drugs were not involved.

In the end this whole experience is going to make me a stronger person. And in the end..........my husband will be the person that he was before drugs came into his life. There is hope and that is what I need to keep reminding myself. I just need to take this one day at a time.

your ending statement should mean the most to you. becoming stronger. you see, your no doing this for HIM, your doing it for YOU. its amazing what we can do for ourselves when times are tough huh ?

hippiefreak how are you doing? You are right the person your husband was when on drugs was someone else. Drugs control the person and make them do unquestionable things, things he will need to forgive himself for and things you need to forgive him for. It wasn't him, the drugs took over his body and soul. Now that he is fighting for control over his life he will need your love and strength to get through it. It is not easy but it can be done.

We are all praying for you and for him.

Thank you for asking anamore. I am hanging in there. Things are getting much easier. I have accepted the fact that my husband may have done unquestionable things. I am ok with it.......now. A few weeks ago, absolutely not. Ya know it is great for him to be going through this but also great for our relationship. Him being gone for so long is just making me love him more and more every day. When I talk to him I get a little flutter in my stomach.

I have to leave the past behind and not bring up stuff about what he did when he was controled by drugs. It isn't fair to him to dwell on the past nor is fair to myself. Dwelling will not help anything.

I am going to see my husband this Saturday. I am totally excited. Now what do you all think about taking my son next week? Hubby wants to see him but I am affraid that he will miss our son so much that he might want to leave. I don't mind taking him down but I don't want my husband to leave treatment because he misses our son.

First of all, how old is your son, does he understand what is going on. Maybe seeing his son will give him the strength to go on fighting. I know my daughter played a large part in my recovery. She caught me once sneaking a drink, the look of pain on her face just cut through my heart, That was my turning point, when I became serious on getting clean. I never wanted to hurt her like that again.

Does your son understand what is going on, is he hurting because his father is not there. He may not want to see his father, It all depends on how old he is and how he is understanding the problems. You don't want to bring your son if he is feeling hurt by his dad's actions.

I don't know if this rehab center deals w/ the 12 steps, but one of the steps is that he has to ask you for forgiveness for all the pain he has caused, He also needs to forgive himself. Let him know you forgive him, let him know how much you love him and that seeing him fight for control of his life has made you love him more.

If he wants to leave, tell him he needs to stay and complete the program. After being in rehab for awhile, he gets use to being w/o the drugs but once he gets on the outside, the same problems will be there, he needs to know that he can't solve them by taking drugs again, Alot of people relapse after they get back to the real world. he has to learn new coping skills to deal w/ whatever caused his addiction.

You both can have a fresh new start, but don't forget just because he is out of rehab all his problems w/ drugs is not over, He will have to have an new outlook on life, one that doesn't use drugs to solve the problems. He has to resolve all his issues head on, no more running away from himself. He has to accept all that he has done, see how the drug controlled him and what that control made him do. He will have control of his life now and all the responsibilities of his actions, He can not hide behind the drug anymore.

did you talk to his dr, maybe you can ask the dr if its ok to bring your son, but don't let your husband use that as an excuse to leave, He needs to take care of himself first, then he can take care of his son. He may even have to continue out patient councelling, once he gets out or go to NA meetings.

Let us know if you decide to take you son, is this the 1st time you are going to see him since he went in. Maybe it might be better if you go alone, so you can access the situation, I think you will know, if it feels right, then take your son. Also the rehab may have rules on children visiting, find out what the policy is.

Good Luck, we are all praying for you and your husband.

So, I went and saw my husband yesterday at his treatment facility. He looked so good. He has been there for 15 days. He finally addmitted that he was a "junkie". I knew he was usinf interavenously but never heard it from him. I am fine with the whole situation right now because he is where he needs to be getting the help he needs. He was voted in as vice president of the community by all the therapists at the facility. He has done such an awesome job. He is very decidicated to the program. We wrote each other a letter and exchanged them yesterday when we saw each other. He feels horrible about the way he has treated me over the past couple years. He can't beat himself up about it because he was not himself and had been consumed by his addiction. Of course I am not ok with it but I understand that he was sick. I love my husband so much. He is concerned that I will not want to be with him once he gets out of treatment. I find myself falling in love with him more and more. I made a vow to him through sickness and health til death do us part. I didn't want to leave him yesterday after our visit. It broke my heart to leave him there.

Hubby will be getting out on the 27th and will be heading to our new home down south I am so excited for him to come home.