Drug Addiction Support Group

first of all welcome & now ...wow!!!!! you sure had a roller coaster ride ..... He is 18 ... you can not force him into reahb ..but you can push him by detaching him & not enabling him in any way ,,if he can get help you stay out of his life ..I know honey that sound harsh ..But if someone told me 3 years ago this I could not amagine to do this to my son ..... But it worked & I want your son to get better also ...... swe are here for you ... Is he in jail now? there is not right or wrong thing ..But if what you are doing isnt working try something else...... your son need to want the help ..but make it hard for him ..help him to reach his rock bottom ..... i threw myson out .. called the police & said thing that i never thought i would say ... My nephew od & died & if i can help anyone ones child I will ...... so please post & vent & cry.. we are here for you & want to help your son ......get a plan .........

My son is now on his last week in rehab and has expressed his angst to me about getting out. He has put some weight back on and is able to keep his food down now. The others in treatment say they dont know how he can put so much food into such a skinny body. He has excelled it the program they teach and is in the "platinum" group which is an honor within the facility. He is determined to use the tools he has instead of the drug. The things that stand out from this rehab facility are the family education classes. They have really been eye opening to me and taught me what I did wrong last time and how to cope this time. I will be looking for a home alanon meeting . I have my hope back and thats a big thing. I just hope he takes his counselers advice and finds an Oxford house instead of going back to his dads. Thanks to you all for your awesome support and for listening to my rambling.

you did nothing wrong ..we are parents ... our motherhood is what it is ..our kids are the ones that make bad choices...... my sons drug addiction is still haunting him ...... does it ever end?

Post edited by: greeneyemommy, at: 12/02/2011 07:57 AM

Hello, my daughter is 24 years old and is a heroin addict. For the past 4 years, I have gone through hell and back with her. Right now she is in recovery but as we all know that could change at anytime. nrsnmom, I know exactly how you feel. Its tough, but you must remain tough for your son. Give him support but also show him tough love. It broke my heart to walk away from her while she was in a detox but I felt that if I kept enabling her, I was not helping. It took me years to relize it. Be strong and he will too. God Bless

congrats on her being in recovery.. yes my son was on suboxines for 9 months & he relapsed hard trying to get off them so i know how you feel .... hes now in recovery ... But i have to let my son work the steps & the program .. he knows what he has to do to stay clean ......My son put himself into detox & I didnt even go with him ,, hes was so sick ..but I knew i had to let him do this alone .....i know today that i must back off & let him find his way ....& its going great .. his Na group is wonderful & he has alot of support ......

Thank you greeneyemommy for your support and response. I hope your son is still doing well. I feel bad about not responding to your hugs and I want you to know that it has nothing to do with you . I somehow felt that if I even entered this forum it may Jinx my son and i . stupid you may say but it is still exactly the way I felt. Why am I here now? I am here to let you and the other mothers know that it is possible to recover from this horrible evil drug. My son now has around a year sober and he graduated and is doing well. I say around a year because I have finally quit focussing on the dread and the past and started focussing on now. He has graduated from high school and is really focussing on his future. No, things aren't perfect. He is still seeing a counseler and working on his anger for things that have happened in the past and he still needs to realize that he needs more meetings, or at least in my mind he does but as far as I can tell he is through the darkest part. I just wanted to come back and thank you for being here for me when I desperately needed it. I also want you to know that I dont ever forget what we have been through and I wish for you the same thing that I have right now......

Love and Light,

nursnmom

Hi greeneyemommy is not online much these days, the last I heard from her, her son was doing alot better. maybe some day she will visit us again.

Its good that he is still in therapy and working on his problems, sometimes it takes a long time to resolve all the problems, just give him time, give him love and support and be there for him if he heeds you.

He has to relearn how to deal w/ life and being clean, its a daily process, but it sounds like there is hope............

So i am new to this forum and need help. My son is 22 and has been addicted to heroin for about 1 year now. I have read through a bunch of posts and have learned alot from other p's. My son works to support his habbit and has not stole from us yet. We lost our house and have to move by aug. 28 this year and my first thought is to let hm know that he cannot move with us. We also have a 14 yr old daughter that has been through hell and back. No thanks to my son and all of his issues that i get blamed for. I know there are underlying issues but he will not go and get help/ His g/f and him went to in patient rehab and she stayed for 4 days and he came home 6 hours into it. anyway, life has been literally hell for the past 6 yrs then the heroin started. i have been told that i am the enabler. and need to wing him off the boobi could write a book on the life with him and then some...

I don't know what to do anymore becaue now I have to think about our daughter and her future. Any suggestions????

Sometimes what you need to do is called tough love..he is in denial and as long as he is in that state there is not much you can do..he needs to realize on his own that he has a problem, did his gf start using again after rehab...

You can write here and post your anger and fustrations, you will get alot of support from the members. You can also try going to NA-alon or AA-alon meetings, they will help you deal with his problems. If someone is an addict, he is not only ruining his life but everyone who loves him too.

Concentrate on your daughter and hope and pray that your son will admit that he has a problem. What about his gf, are they still together, is she clean or did she start using again after rehab.

He left rehab because he is so afraid to face life w/o his drug, the drug is in total control and an addict can't see a life wo drugs in it. That's why the addict needs to hit bottom before he will go and get help.

We are here for you, to vent, to write about your pain and anger, anything you need, we are all in this together, you are not alone.............

I've done MANY of those 2mg shots, it sounds like a farewell shot to me. He wanted to get good and high before he "left the life". I was strung out on heroin for ten years and my mom NEVER gave up hope that I'd get my head outta my ass and get clean. I did, and it's been 2.5 years and I've had a cpl of relapses(not with heroin, pain pills) but I've gotten it right and told somebody about them and when I do feel like using, I have support and ppl that get it. Don't give up hope, it's all you have. Heather