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Just the words starting over are scary enough. So when you think of "all" that must be done to start over, where do you start? What is "starting over?"

Lets hear some stories of when you "started over." Did you move, get a new job, or did you just change your life? There are a few of us members that are "starting over" right now. what does that mean? what does it mean to YOU?

Des, are you starting over by getting this councling job and wanting to help others?

Sadmom, are you starting over by working more on your marriage and less on your daugter?

Markm, are you starting your life over since the death of your wife?

Steve, how about you... are you starting over since your last relapse?

Soberredhead, you too.... when was the last time you started over?

life doesnt come with an easy button. we all have been thrown a hard ball in life. what have we done to fix it? what did we do to move on? what is that first step? and WHY is it soooo hard???????????????????

comments.......... stories.......... examples?????????

well im starting over now in my life, im searching for a new home for me and my son, i've been a single mom the past few months but its more real now that i have to go out on my own for my own space and be the best mom i can be... and hopefully meet the man of my dreams soon x x x

Dani, who are you living with now? have you ever lived "on your own"? i think being a single mom would be scary. Just knowing that if theres a noise or even a bug... i would have to be the one to check it out. Last winter Keith (my boyfriend) took our son out of state for 10 days to go play in the snow. I was home with our daughter. I slept with the gun next to my bed. The first couple of nights were the worse, but after that.... i was fine.

my mom was a single mom with 4 kids. We made it. We survived. We may have had our tough times... but it was those tough times that made us who we are.

One step at a time. and as long as you and your son are safe and healthy... THATS what matters!

exactly brandijo, i live with my mom but the house is to small so i will have to move soon..... yes ive lived alone b4 when i was pregnant and when my little boy was born until he was 5 months it's lonely alright but i'll get there lol x x x

BrandiJo what a great post especially for me now when I will be starting over. I have done it already twice, after hitting bottom from drugs and alcohol. Now its different but I will be starting over,

I will be renting an apartment, which I never did, always lived in my own home. So its alittle scarey. Then I always had a man to lean on, my bf of 23 yrs doesn't want to have anything to do w/ me moving. He wants to cool things down. Just when I really need him.

So here I am 56 yrs old, going to live in an apartment w/o having a man to lean on. I feel very insecure and alone.

My family,especially my mother is causing more stress and tension. I feel so totally alone but I know I will do it. I have gone thru alot and this is just another stepping stone.

Once I am settled I hope to come back to all my friends on MDJ. I could really use the support and friendship now. But I have to do this alone, Starting over is hard and scarey, its the unknown that makes me scared, how will I survive, where will I live, and doing it all alone makes me scared the most. In the past when I was starting over I always had a man to lean on, now I must do it alone. I am trying to be positive and will begin a new life, a new adventure but its so hard....always..Ana

starting over IS hard... and it IS scary. But its IS part of life. As a child we picture our lives to be this fairytale. We will meet the partner of our dreams. We will have this beautiful house and wonderful perfect children. Jobs that we love going to. and life will be easy. then BAM reality hits! there is NO "perfect" partner. you wont ALWAYS live in the same beautiful house. Kids will be kids! and you will have to face hadr times and fights and regrets and crap! and thats real!

starting your life over is ALSO real. and its worth it. it builds your character. it sculps you into the person you are... or the person you will become.

the thing i LOVE about starting over......... is the fact that your new life is "new" and "clean" and "different"! and new clean and different are GOOD things!

if you are going to start over... DO IT RIGHT! cut out all of the BAD. cut out all of the HARD. and keep your head up. you are doing the right thing. the GOOD thing!

well said

Dani, its been awhile since you have posted. how are things going? have you found a new house for you and your son yet? do you like it? how about your ex? still not talking? pop in and update us on how you are doing. sometimes you have to let the caios of your life STOP for just a minute and you need to let you mind rest. reaching out to others help ease your own pain. (trust me on that one) ::wink wink:: just when you think you dont have the anwers in life, everything will make sence. i miss you girlie...

remember, you past is your past.. you can not go back and change it. but your future is what YOU make of it. one step in the right direction can change your whole life. give your baby boy a hug from me and let me know how you are doing!