Hi All

They have three right now, step stones really ages 4, 3, and 2. The wife lives with her with her parents with the children, something about the parents never learned how to drive so she stays there with her children to help them out? The husband lives in their home alone without the children. He works and she takes care of the children.

The children are suffering because the mom is doing everything in her power to keep up with a drug induced husband. She feeds the oldest because she is always with her 99.9 percent of the time, but the youngest and the second are not as fortunate. There house is a disaster and there is no one there to clean it because she spends all of her time with her parents. Now, I can understand culture and all, but honestly. I thought I understood the Asian culture after knowing and being around the wife and her family for years, but I just don't get this at all.

He has been in two drug rehab programs and that did not work. I'm not sure I need advice at this point, because honestly what can be done?

Thanks in advance for your help and suggestions! Nightmax

I can understand her parents not being able to drive and her wanting to help them out,but she doesn't have to stay there with them and leave her husband on his own and not take care or feed the smaaler kids,but if her husband has rehab twice and it didn't help, was she there to support him and try and help him. She is sort of lucky because most addicts will not admit that they have a problem or they just are not ready or want help.If her husaband has tried maybe she shoulg go home and be supportive instead of living with her parents go check on them not live there. She has her own family now the kids need their father and he needs them.If he really wants to stop using I think that would be a good idea but if he doesn't want to stop then she should concentrate on her kids and not her husband because they can not take care of themselves and they need one of their parents. I live with and addict who wants help and who has been to rehab once and it did't work but I try to support him and help him and he has gotten better a whole lot better and we take it one day at a time.