It has been some time since I have posted so I thought I would give a short update.
On the 9th I was granted a temporary restraining order against him, and the judge stated that my belongings that were left at his house would be dealt with at the next hearing. The day before the hearing he started texting me from a ping number which is from an app used by the Iphone. He refused to admit it was him, the cop was unable to help me. During this, he hinted toward there being many issues to come if I did not drop the order. His own mother told me she feared he would pull out all the stops if I did not drop the restraining order. I went in on the 28th. He had a packet full of documents to fight the RO unfortunately he did need it, and I was unable to speak. Immediately the judge informed us he was not served with the proper documentation and extended the temporary order.
Since then I have spoken with my abuser about the order and what I would require if he expected me to drop the order. I told him he had to get into a batterer/abuser program, or continuously see a psychologist with a Ph.D that specializes in abuse.
He had the gall to tell me he wont go because he is not an abuser- IM the abuser and IM the one who needs the batterer program and told me once i see that i will appologise and see why i have been wrong this whole time. then he tells me he loves me and that he wants me back. the way he tells me he wants me back translates more to "i have to have you back"
So we have reached a stand still. he wont do what i ask, and i dont want to drop the order. problem is, i talked to him and we have an RO. so now i can get into trouble. not sure exactly what would happen. at this point i dont feel the RO is going to be useful. And on that note as far as i know he STILL has not bee served with all the documents that he was supposed to be served with, and the domestic violence shelter is the ones who stated they would take care of that....
I am feeling very much like they are letting me down, and that I have let myself down by allowing him to intimidate me into talking to him.
I am very nervous. I think I have gotten myself into a maze of trouble by talking to him, and I feel if I do not do what he wants he will no longer just be messing with my cars and screwing me over financially, I fear he will become dangerous.
I hope others here will understand why I feel this way and not judge me- but because of my fear and my knowing this man, i am feeling that it would be in my best interest to go with my original plan i made months ago.--
to make him happy, keep him happy as best as i can for as long as i can, all the while my kids dad saves money like crazy so when he has the goal amount my kids and i and my dogs can skip town in the middle of the night and be away from him completely.
I am nervous, and havent yet made my decision, but i am strongly considering going back to him for the time being so I can make this happen and keep myself and my kids safe.... i know it sounds odd to think that to keep people save i would volentarily go into the arms of a dangerous man. 
