Depression Support Group

I was recently told I was suffering from depression. I had been very down for sometime and always kept the happy mom face on. After telling a friend how I was really feeling she encouraged me to see someone. I was very reluctant but after sometime I went. I had to quit my job to care for my mom who now lives with us, my oldest daughter is getting married, and I just had reconstructive surgery on my ankle. I'm very sad, mad, fustrated, angrey, and don't know how to deal with it all. I have terrible dreams to the point that I don't sleep but a few hours a night. I can't take sleeping pills in case my mom needs me, I have the kids games and practices to attend a house to care for and a family to take care of. Out of control. Feel very alone although I know I'm not. Don't know what to do.

Hi JAT and welcome to our depression group. I am sorry that you suffer this awful disease, but glad that you found us. We are a warm, welcoming group, so feel free to post whenever and whatever. We will respond. You are in the right place. I hope that we can help you.

Your plate seems so full it's going to start overflowing. I'm truly sorry for all that's going on around you. Did the doc give you any antidepressant meds? If s/he did, they take up to 8 weeks to be fully in your system, tho you may start feeling better before that time.

Please let us know how you're getting along, honey. We do care.

Warm welcoming wishes, Sylvia

Hi Jat

Boy, it never rains but it pours. You have so much going on, and all of it high stress. Not getting your proper sleep sure doesn't help you deal with everything that you have going on either.

Are there family members or friends that could take part of the load for you? It sounds like a lot to be handling by yourself. And, as Sylvia said it might be good to talk to the doctor about your medication.

Welcome to the group and I look forward to getting to know you. Everybody is great here, they've sure got me through some rough stretches. We'll be here to help however we can.

Sending you a hug, Pam

Hi JAT. Come on in. There's probably nothing that one of us hasn't heard, seen, done, or felt ourselves at one time or another. This is a good place to be. Saying what you're feeling can be hard, but there's no reason to hold it back here. There are good people here who really do understand and want to give as much support as they can. I've had so many difficulties expressing my feelings, I don't know how my therapist hasn't pulled her hair out, but she's been so patient with me. And since coming here, I've been finding ways to just get it all out of me. Look around on the boards. Some forums are on specific topics, some are open to anything you want to talk about, and we even try to have a little fun. You can tell a little or a lot. It's completely up to you. Mostly, I've made friends here so I never have to feel alone with this. I'm glad you found us.

Hugs,

SAT

Thanks for the replys, Having a bad morning. Don't know why all this is happening and just want it to stop. Feel like my heart is being ripped out. So many different things running through my head. I'm used to being busy and active. now all I want to do is sit in my room with the lights out. Trying not to drink but getting harder and harder. Seem to be reaching for it more and more. Just sad. I have an app. with a counselor today but if I'm not any more honest today than I was the first time I went I'm just wasteing everyones time. Meds don't seem to be doing anything.

Hi Jat, Welcome to the group. It sounds like you have your hands full and it's no wonder why you feel the way you do. It's alot to manage. I know I have my responsibilites too are really overwhelming for me. I do see someone for therapy to talk to and help me manage my feelings and stressors. It helps if you have the right person. I have 2 kids, work some nights during the week, and have kids homework, sport activities one for each of them and a house to care for. Unfortunately, my house is what gets put last on the list. I do the the dishes, makes sure laundry and food is in the house but my house is a disater. I can't have anyone come by unannounced to see the pigstye. I have limitted energy because I chronic insomnia along with the depression. So I don't sleep much at night and therefore not much gets done during the day. It's a cycle and it's frustrating at times.

Just want you to know you are not alone here. Welcome to the group and share anytime. Rachele

JAT- I think we've all wondered before why this happened to us. There are no easy answers. But you do sound as if physically and emotionally, you are just stretched so thin, there is no time for self-care. Sitting in a dark room - Boy do I EVER know what that is. I still tend to do it. I think it's a way for me to try and block out the world. One thing I try to do is make myself sit outside for a short time each day. It's hard sometimes, but if you have something simple to do, some music to listen to or hot or cold drink (depending on weather) it gets a little easier. I go out when I let my pets out in the morning. It's almost a ritual for me now. That makes it easier for me to get some sunnyD. It's important that you try to get a little sunshine if you can. It's actually good for depression. Not a miracle cure, but it can help. Please discuss drinking with your doctor. I know you don't feel you can talk about everything but drinking can actually compound the problem. Trust me, they HAVE heard it before. You are never a waste of time, anymore than the rest of here. We just have a problem, that we didn't choose, didn't deserve and none of us like it. But we are all very worthwhile, beautiful human beings. So are you. You are just having a hard time seeing that right now. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Give yourself a break. You weren't supposed to be supermom or superwife or any of the other things we internally chastise ourselves for. It takes time for meds. to work. And sometimes you have to try a different one that is better suited to you own body chemistry. Please don't give up. We are all here. We want to hear what you have to say. And we think you are just as important as the rest of us with depression. Some of us sound a little more cheerful than others at times but that's because we're having a good day. But when we are down, everyone else is here to encourage us. Please stick with us. We understand and we really do care.

Loving hugs,

SAT

Rach- I think we have the same maid. lol Mine hasn't been doing her job either . The only one I like to have over is J. She uses the same maid service (tic) and has seen it all before. It's not a perfect home, but it's home, and we love each other.