Depression Support Group

This is my first time posting on this site

wasnt sure whether to at first

I am a 21 year old male from the UK, however over the last 2 years my life has taken a severe nose-dive

Every job I have had has either been closed down or I've been laid off, now with the recession things are just getting worse on a daily basis

bills that i cannot pay constantly coming through my door, I am hungry most days as I can hardly afford to feed myself, my love life is non-existant my longest relationship was about 3 weeks

Basically what I'm trying to say is that every aspect of my life is a nightmare!

is life just one long shitty ride to the grave

I would be lying if I said I hadn't thought of just ending it all together, however i lack the courage to do such an act

this is the 1st time in my life ive been honest about my feelings, if anyone can relate to me I could really do with some help

Devil,

When you're hungry, you become really good at finding food. Don't they have soup kitchens in UK that feed the poor and hungry? I hope so.

Bills can wait. People don't realize that but they can just sit there and be unpaid for awhile. Bankruptcy is an option when they get too bad...it is over here.

Running lean and on a cash basis works for some, works for me. Relationships when we're in this state of being (recovering) don't even last 3 weeks. Consider yourself fortunate.

You sound short of having understanding friends. I wonder if you couldn't turn that around? Maybe this place will be good for a few and get you on the right track.

I wish I could say more than "hang in there," but I don't know what it could be that would help you right now. But maybe knowing you have been heard loud and clear might help you feel less alone with it.

(((Devil)))

Post edited by: scooby, at: 05/03/2009 12:44 PM

Devil...I'm so glad that you are able to open up and be honest about your feelings with us! We're a great group and the support you will recieve here is amazing, if you seek it!

We all have different problems that cause our depression to worsen...but we all share in the feelings of depression. We all know that pain you are feeling!

Scooby is right, you can only take on so much...let the bills wait. What else can you do? Nothing. So, check that off and one thing you are not going to get stressed about. If you can't fix a problem, then leave it behind. As far as a relationship...it would be nice, but you first need to be in a better place with your mood. So, put that aside.

Do you have family? Friends? Is there anyone who can help you a bit? If you have no job...I don't know how it works there but here you can get unemployment. Are you able to get food stamps there? That will feed you. I can imagine you are too depressed to be able to seek help that is available to you...but you need to try. Get yourself out everyday...looking for a job or learning what you can do to get assistance. Or taking a walk and just take some deep cleansing breaths.

We are here for you! Feel free to vent. We have sympathetic ears!!

Camey

Devil,

I know how hard this time is for you..Hi I am Viv and believe me I know what it is to have too many bills not no food and all the things that happen in life..

It seems when without food you have to do what it takes to survive as a good friend pointed out to me one day..I called churches and got some help that way since I am pretty much home bound and next week I will get meals on wheels so that is one good meal a day.. So check into all the aveanues you can think of there is help out there sometimes you just have to use your voice.

As for as the bills mine get filed in chapter 13 which is my garbage can..Cant pay them why set and stare at them right. That only serves to depress me more so outta sight outta mind until I can handle it.. So dont let them get you down..

We are here to listen to you and share with you and let you know you are not alone.. hang in there my friend.. We are here for you..

It is often difficult to open up and put that first post out there. I, too, have severe financial problems and a family to support. I understand the depression that comes from just going to the mailbox. My boyfriend is having such a hard time finding a job, too. Keep posting and welcome to the group.

Hi Devil,

I saw your post a few weeks ago. I tried to reply but found I was a bit hopeless at advice! However, I've been hoping that things picked up for you and that you were feeling a bit better. Just wanted you to know that someone was rooting for you.

Wow, you are so young and to be alone taking care of yourself can be intimidating just to think of much less live through. I count myself lucky to have found a guy that loved me right out of highschool and have been together sharing all that life dishes out for 30 yrs.. It's hard.

Honestly am going to pray things turn for the better for you. I don't know what advice to give but hang in there, get some help from friends if you have a couple good ones? I don't know the way things are in UK so I don't know what kind of help system there is in place there. We have food stamps, etc.. for people who can't make the bills and still afford to eat.

Good luck dear. God bless.

hugs

All our problems based on one simple thing, which any person can control. This thing is - our expectations. Everything what happens around you in fact happens inside you. If you want some practical advices? let me know.

HMMMM.....that's interesting. My expectations always get me in trouble. What do you mean by " happens inside you?" I would like to know more

Sometimes , i will get down and i have been homeless with 3 kids, so i know where you are coming from, is there aide for the poor in the UK? do they have places that give food like chuches, i know with that name you probbly dont care for churches but they will help, they wont see anyone go hungry. I will paray for you today this Christmas eve, do you have family you can turn to? i Hope you soon find care and comfort, in your life, Love and WELCOME, Debi