Depression Support Group

Thanks again to everyone for taking the time to talk with me.

Bits...what you said about me was truly 'Blush worthy' so ty,lol. I don't know that I deserve such things to be said about me tho. I don't see myself as anything too special or attractive, but I think I'm a good person at least... I just am who I am. Hopefully, eventually I can find a good woman that I can spend my life with. That's what I want...

I think that ya'll make good points as far as me and this new woman I'm talking too. Sylvia made a good point also that when I see this person again, I let her know that yes I enjoyed and don't regret being intimate before, but this time I need it to go slower. To get to know each other in person more, before we go too heavy into physical pleasure. Part of bonding is being physically intimate too however, so even if we end up being intimate, it might not hurt things too much. I just need to know that I'm there for more then just that.

I still haven't spoken to this woman since I was gone all day at the beach yesterday, then my father went to the ER which took my focus off any relationship. He'll be ok but he's still having some issues which are concerning.

Maybe tonight or monday I'll give her a call...I know I shouldn't put this off but I'm scared of how it might go right now.

Your welcome AgGhost...Bits is very good on this kind of thing..you are respecting of a lady you may want to be with for a long time...it is important to talk to her about it...

Now, I can't possibly make out your pic...Is the Ghost thing about not having a head on your shoulders...LOL...now I'm just being silly...it could be my eyes...I wish I could afford those new glasses that are strictly for computer monitors...

You were very good to ask for advise on this topic, that shows you are a good man...

Peace to you

Patty

AgGhost Bits is right you sound like a great man that a great woman would be proud to be with. Like you I think I am nothing special but met a wonderful man here 4 years ago who makes me feel special everyday of my life and I am very blessed to have him in my life. Just be honest with you it sounds like you are just afraid of getting hurt or left I know that feeling but who knows this could turn out to be the Love of Your Life. Just take it slow. I have finally met my true love after years of waiting. So don't sell yourself short!

Maybe someday you'll see my face

This woman is currently staying with her brother. I met him when I visited last time, and he thought I was a good guy (thats what I was told) and that I could call anytime....I've been trying to call but I've gotten nothing but a ringer that just keeps ringing w/o an answering machine. I'm certain I have the correct # too cuz I got a hold of her before. I tried at different times of day even just to try to catch someone around...I think maybe they don't recognize my number and aren't answering. They don't have the internet right now either so basically I'm unable to talk to her about anything, and my window to visit is shrinking fast. I don't know if this is going to work...If I hear nothing by the end of Tuesday then I'll forget about it all together. There just won't be sufficient time.

This is frustrating. If it's meant to happen then it'll happen though. I don't really even know if I want a romantic relationship with this woman truthfully. She's a good friend though, and I do care about her and she's worth seeing regardless...it's just hard to tell what will happen right now.

Post edited by: AgGhost1, at: 07/02/2012 03:41 PM

I have news....the woman I was going to visit...the one I couldn't get a hold of on the phone or internet. Well her power has been out for a week. She's one of the ppl who got smacked by that big storm It's finally back tho, and she sent me a msg. I'll talk to her on the phone soon.

Hi

I sure hope her and her family are ok. Those storms were very bad in a lot of areas , Wow...I wonder where this will lead...LOL.

I like to joke with you, your so sweet to keep her still in your heart...Thats a good start...let us know, how your doing!!

Big Hugs!!!

Patty

Yes she's ok thankfully although there was a lot of uprooted trees etc.

I'm wondering where things might lead also....I spoke to her on the phone yesterday and it went well. She's in a better living space now free of so much stress, and is feeling a lot better emotionally. I'm very happy about that btw!! We talked about a lot of things for a bit over an hour. She thought I wasn't interested in seeing her since I didn't call, so I explained why I hadn't. She seems open to seeing me again...Idk how she sees me though. It sounded like she didn't want to date, or rather she told me that she knows I don't want to date. Like she didn't think I would WANT to date her....We spoke about people we dated, and she told me about guys giving her #'s etc.

I feel like if I just told her that I want her, and that I wish we were more then just friends that she'd feel the same...I think she wants me but doesn't think that I'm available to her. I'm not sure what ll happen if I go see her again, but I mentioned maybe going for the wknd...I'll have to talk to her again soon....

Do you guys think I should I visit or just let it be?

Ag ghost..If you still really feel something for her then you should go see her. I wonder how far you need to travel to see her? If its worth it to you, then you should see her if your off work for the weekend. You can always have your first night taking her out to get to know her better...yes , you never know if this is your soul mate for life, or not if its getting to you...

I wish you the best always

Patty

I suppose you have to think about what you want from the relationship this far. Being friends is good and having a romatic relationship creates more dynamics. Be true to yourself and know that if it is to happen, then it will at the right time. If not, you still have a friend hopefully. Relationships are complicated and nothing wrong with taking time to think what you want out of it. Good luck! Rachele

If she were your soulmate you would know it.

A soul mate is not someone you might fall in love with, might grow to love, might like, might want to spend the rest of your life with.

Many people do fall in love, but still never really found their soulmate.

A soulmate is the deepest love that exists between human beings. A bond that nothing can ever break. Not even death.

A soulmate is immediately recognized. By both.

Do soulmates still have life's problems?

Of course. But, no matter what comes along it never cracks their foundations of love. Their love continues to grow with every breathe they take.

Even when one draws the last breath, here on earth, makes no difference...the love remains between them.

I pray everyone will know the love of and being a soulmate.

Hugs