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Sylvia4648 Posts: 5136
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Hi Glanda and welcome. I think the lack of trust is your mind's way of preparing for your husband to do something to cause you not to trust him. It's a kind of self-preservation. Unfortunately, much of what we do now is based on the past, and it can be very difficult to realize that TODAY is OK. It may not have been 'yesterday', it may not be 'tomorrow', but all we've got is this moment. I agree w/ the others. I don't think you'll be able to understand what you are doing w/o some counseling to move on from the past. What you are doing will, at one time or another, cause him to do whatever you're accusing him of. And then your mind will say it told you so. But it's not what you're thnking, it's what you're doing - pushing him away. Sounds like you might have one of the few good men, and I can't urge you strongly enough to get some help before you've pushed him out the door in order to be able to say you knew he was no good. Men and women, if wrongly accused of something on a continual basis will finally say, 'I'm being accused of it. I might as well do it.' Or he could do it w/o knowing on a conscious level that is what he's doing. We are here to support you any time. Please see a counselor before it's too late. If you coitinue, you're going to continue to marry the 'same' man over and over to be able to say you knew it. Please look into counseling and keep us posted. We care. Warm welcoming wishes, Sylvia 'I didn't have time to write a short [post].' Mark Twain wrote that one for me. LOL
'Wisdom is knowing when you can't be wise.'
'Life is what's happening while we are busy making other plans.'
NOTE: I can't imagine anyone is surprised that distracted driving has overtaken drunk driving as the number one cause of death on the road. Please, y'all, keep your eyes sharp when you drive. The guy in the next car could be on a computer in the dash board (whoever dreamed that up should have to watch autopsies), while the one behind you is texting. It's important to be aware of those around you. The kid who ended my second to last life was in a huge SUV and on the telephone.
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