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10/17/2010 04:44 PM
neibaby070707
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Today seems to be a waterworks day for me. About 30 minutes ago I was listening to music and just busted out crying {Tears in Heaven}. Now I can't stop. It occurred to me why I am so depressed lately, November will be a year that my grandmother passed away. She was the most amazing woman. Even wheelchair bound, she kept her head high. I should be thankful for the time I had with her (which was seldom), but even though she lived 87 years and an AMAZING life, I still miss the life out of her.

I've heard the "would she want you like this" - I know the answer is No. I know that in my lifetime, I've never heard her complain. If she ever did, it was turned into a positive. I live my life like this, but today is just hitting me hard. When she left, I feel like she took part of me with her. I know she lives in my heart, and my soul and I understand this, I have her pictures, I have her memories. I just don't have her.

December is my aunts birthday (she died two years ago). When I didn't have my mom around, my aunt was there keeping me in line. Whether it was compassion or tough love. She was only an email away, a phone call away, or across town. I left a month before she died and I come back to this town and she's no longer here.

If I can just skip winter and move onto February/March, I will be all set.

Thanks for listening to me babble. Now if I can just find the off switch.

Nei

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10/17/2010 07:08 PM  Top
Sylvia4648
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Hi Nei, I'm sorry you are so weepy. Those anniversaries can be so hard. My grandmother will be gone 40 years in November - which seems unreal to me. I did grow up w/ her in my home, and she was so special at making me feel special in a strange family. I have very little family left, and most of the ones I have left I am no longer in contact w/. I spend all holidays by myself. I would like to cut out the time between Halloween and the middle of January and feel like I'd be ok. But after Haloween start the T-giving and X-mas ads and music, then come all the holidays, and my mom died on 12 January. After that, when I wasn't in a 16 year depression w/ no reprieve, I'd feel better. The last 16 years have been very hard, and the anniversaries and holidays are just that much worse.

But Nei, before this long bout, which was caused and continues by severe changes in my health, I didn't think about the anniversaries so much - except my father's, and that's a whole new game. So I suspect in time you'll feel sad. We don't forget those we've lost; but I think you will feel less sad as time goes on.

Take such good care.

Sylvia

'I didn't have time to write a short [post].' Mark Twain wrote that one for me. LOL
'Wisdom is knowing when you can't be wise.'
'Life is what's happening while we are busy making other plans.'

NOTE: I can't imagine anyone is surprised that distracted driving has overtaken drunk driving as the number one cause of death on the road. Please, y'all, keep your eyes sharp when you drive. The guy in the next car could be on a computer in the dash board (whoever dreamed that up should have to watch autopsies), while the one behind you is texting. It's important to be aware of those around you. The kid who ended my second to last life was in a huge SUV and on the telephone.

I am not a medical practitioner. I speak only from personal experience. Please do not interpret anything I say as medical advice.

10/17/2010 08:12 PM  Top
BabyNotSoBeautiful

Nei,

I don't really know why I feel the need to share this with you.. But my gram and I were very close, she was like my mom.. And then December 25th of 08' she was gone. Just like that. It's hard losing someone that means so much, or even so little to you..

Crying is good for the soul, let it all out.

Ryelee.


10/17/2010 11:36 PM  Top
neibaby070707
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Thank you both. I was having one absolutely horrid day and just cried for hour non-stop. I couldn't stop. People were cheering me up and yet I would smile and then just cry. I ended up going out to Denny's with a friend, crying on the way but managed to make it through the night and I'm feeling better. I miss everyone, and it will be very hard for me this year, but one step in front of the other, it's all I can do. I know it will be okay in the end. This too shall pass.

Hugs to you both, and I'm sorry for both your losses.

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10/17/2010 11:52 PM  Top
slada
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I know how you feel because my dad die in November 8,2005 five years ago and he was 71 years old.When I wish to cry I think about his letter how he was preparing me for that day and how he wouldn't be happy to see my crying because like he told me long time ago:

you have your kids and you have to live for them.......

I imagine him saying this to me and I stop crying.

Try to do same things my friend maybe you will feel better.I think about him every day and I will always think but lives goes on love,whatever we like or not.

Hug for all of you my friends!

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Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.
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10/18/2010 12:03 AM  Top
BabyNotSoBeautiful

Thank you nei,

Same goes to you.

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