Depression Support Group

I emailed the schools counciler about meeting with her. im going tommorrow after skwl. im so nervous. i dont want her to judge me or tell my parents im seeing her. i hope it helps. thank you al so much!

Good for you XO, so glad you are taking this step. I'm sure she won't judge you in any way. Let us know how you get along.

Hugs, Pam

I'm so glad to hear that XO. That's a strong first step and for many the hardest. It's ok to be nervous. We all had that first time and understand what it felt like. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Hugs,

SAT

XO, I too am proud of you. No counselor will judge you; nobody would ever go for counseling if they were judged by the counselor. And you can ask her not to tell your parents you're seeing her and ask her if that is something she HAS to tell them. At least you'll know your rights. I always find knowing my rights to be empowering.

I also suggest you make a list of what you want to discuss. As SAT said, we are all nervous in the beginning. Being nervous can cause us to forget what we wanted to say. And sometimes when my doctor answers something I want to be sure I remember, I write that down also. Keeps me from asking him the same question a dozen times. I have short-term memory problems for a variety of causes. But no doctor, counselor or anyone has looked askance when I came in w/ a written or typed list.

Please let us know how it goes, Sweetie. We do care.

Best, Sylvia

It went so badly. I hate opening up to people and crying. Im so embarassed. we started tlking about my past and how i grew up and i just sorta went with it but then idk how but we ended up tlking about topics tht i dont usually tlk about adn not many ppl know about and had a breakdown infront of her. she said she wants to see me again but i dont know about it. I knew it wld be hard but i didnt expect it to bring back so many bad memories

thank you al so much, its always nice knowing people care especially when my parents are never there.

xoxo

haley

I am so sorry that you have this burden of depression on your shoulders, I know it all to well especially at your age. The only thing I can think (which was already suggested) to talk to your guidence counselor and if you feel like you can not speak to your parents one on one then ask your guidence counselor to set up a meeting with the school counselor, you and your parents.

XO-Don't be embarrassed. You just let out your feelings, things that were bothering you. I've broken down and cried many times. But it probably was hardest the first time. I wasn't used to talking about my private life either. I'm still not but some things I just need to say and get it out of me. You might feel a little strange about it right now because you're not used to it but don't be frightened. They are only memories and can't really hurt you any more. You've had courage and strength enough to come this far, you can do it. We're here if you need to talk.

Big Hugs,

SAT

Haley, I'm sorry you felt so awful. I am of the belief that it's necessary, tho often painful, to work thru the past issues because they are connected w/ your present depression. I have a cousin who used to call me every year or two and tell me she's gone into counseling and is determined to work thru the pain. Then I wouldn't hear from her for another year or two. She'd call and give me the same speech word for word and ask me her questions word for word. She'd try, but she just couldn't get thru it. She's now 52 and terribly miserable and depressed because she always ran when things got painful. She's my youngest cousin, and her homelife was a horror. I had a lot to do w/raising her because her parents couldn't be bothered - which is why she comes to me w/her questions. I've never lied to her and don't intend to start if she decides to try again. But I think it's about 10 years since the last call...

It seems we have to get thru the pain to see the sunshine on the other side of it. I hope you'll give it another visit or two before you decide she can't help you; but of course I can only give you my opinion. It's obviously your decision, and none of us would feel any different about you if you decide not to go. We do not pass judgment.

Let us know how you're doing and what you decide. We care, Sweetie.

Best, Sylvia