Depression Support Group

So, I spent the day in pain, my lupus is bothering me and I have been feeling depressed about my relationship ending... I was so low today I was thinking about her and thinking this is all a mistake and I wish she would get back together with me and was thinking about when we were together and just wanted so badly to call, write... anything. I still can't beleive this is how it ended.

I beleived this was a forever relationship.... when it ended it knocked the wind out of me. I don't know what to do anymore... I want to grovel and beg her to come back then I get a grip and say she broke up with me. Be strong and remember I didn't do anything, just be strong.

I wish it were different.... but, it's not... if a miracle could happen I'd be very happy.

Anyway, it's late and I'm going to bed.

Anbybody have anything to help a broken heart?

Im sorry you are having a rough time I myself have Lupus and know that pains it has with it. Having depression on top of that is not a helpful factor that I understand too.

All I can do is be here to listen tell you the best thing to learn is to love you,breath and try everything you have never tried before because somewhere out there something will help you feel better I know it took a LONG time for me to find what I needed to feel good about me, and good emotionaly and body. But there is hope and there is a way to fight back

If you need someone to talk to I am here

Lee

PS - The only thing to help heal a broken heart is you,your mind (when you ready to let go) and time... I hope it goes by fast for you and you can accpet it and move on with as less pain as possible!

I know you wish things were different Romy. I'm sorry your heart is broken over your relationship. We have all been there at some point in our lives and it hurts. It hurts to loose someone you care deeple for. Unfortunately, it's a 2 way street and if the other person is going in the opposite direction, you can not meet where a relationship should be. This will be very hard for you and you will need strength and support to get through it. But you must think of this, you are work more and deserve mutual love back. You don't deserve someone that is not willing to give you that. We are all here for you. If you need more, there's always counseling that can help you get through this time. Try to distract yourself and find things that are about you. Do you have other friends you can spend time with? Thinking of you, Rachele

Post edited by: Peace4Rach, at: 08/05/2010 07:16 AM

Sorry to here your about your breakup Romy. I'm in the same boat as you currently (however, it's my fault we broke up). I've been feeling like shit too and actually I plan to write a letter to my ex as well....but once some time has passed. After breakups, so many thoughts go thru our minds but they are not really thought out logically a lot. Later on down the road as your reach some realizations, you'll be able to write your letter better I think. But do whatever you need to do to make you feel better, even if that means writing a letter now. And as was already mention, the passing of time is what will help you deal with the heartbreak.

Hi Romy Breakups can be so difficult and when you're feeling tough physically it makes handling the emotional stuff that much harder. I love what you said - "Be strong, I didn't do anything,be strong" If you can hang on to that you will get through this. Take as long as you need to heal and who knows who or what will come your way. Better days ahead Romy. hugs, Pam

Hello,

Thank you everyone for your support and kind words... I feel fragile and am taking alot of baby steps. I have to plan out things now, I feel overwhelmed and need to do things in baby steps.

I have a few friends, only one or two I can sit andhave coffee with and I'm working on that. Most everyone I know is older or far away... So, I am sort of isolated. I have been doing things to meet people in healthy situations. Kickboxing, meditation class, Emotions Anonymous, a 12 step meeting that is very helpful and therapy. I am just looking to getbetter, feel better, fill up my time with positives... hopefully make some friends along the way.

I had to stop with the kickboxing and my meetings in the last week when the lupus flare hit but, I am looking forward to going out tomorrow night for my EA meeting. Today I had therapy and Tuesday as well, I won't miss that... I think when my mind/emotions are better I am physically better.

I'm goingto go for a walk, it's warm out but, I feel like I need to get out for a little while.

Thank you all.. I feel better for your caring enough to take the time to write, I know you don't know me and that makes it so special.

Bless you all,

~Romy

Hi Romy, hope the walk helped. I'm sorry you are going thru so much at one time. Hopefully the lupus flare won't last too long. As was said above, it so much harder to deal w/ physical problems when we're depressed; but it's also more difficult to deal w/ the depression when we are in physical pain. And to have the break-up on top of everything else must feel overwhelming. But as was also said, keep those positive thoughts about your strength in mind. You will be better able to deal w/ the break-up as time passes. But there's no set date; everybody gets thru it in her/his own time.

We are here to help you thru. I'm glad that you're seeing a therapist and taking care of yourself. If you need me, you know where to find me. I sincerely hope you're feeling better soon.

Love, Sylvia