Hi SepC, I'm sorry for what you're going thru. It seems to me that if you were reconnecting w/ your old bf and even having sex w/ him that you need to think long and hard about the current bf you may or may not have pushed away. If you're feeling lonely, unsatisfied sexually and that you can't rely on your current bf he may not be the man for you. I don't mean to sound harsh, but from an outside point of view, I'm wondering if subconsciously you reconnected w/ the old bf because some part of you knew the current bf just wasn't the right guy. But the old bf is probably not right for you either; something caused you to break up before. Is it possible that you and your current bf could take a week or two to be by yourselves - I mean him by himself and you by yourself. That might help both of you to work out how you feel about the relationship. I don't mean that you should date others; just take a short break and find out if you missed each other or if one or both of you felt relieved. For some reason your situation reminds me of a quote I heard on Criminal Minds. It was originally said by Samuel Beckett. 'Try. Fail. Try again. Fail again, but fail better.' I think that sort of describes the dating process now that I think about it. Hope I at least gave you some food for thought. I hope things work out for you, whatever you do now. Please keep us informed. You know that we care and will support you in whatever decision you make. Best, Sylvia Post edited by: Sylvia4648, at: 08/03/2010 10:11 PM 'I didn't have time to write a short [post].' Mark Twain wrote that one for me. LOL
'Wisdom is knowing when you can't be wise.'
'Life is what's happening while we are busy making other plans.'
NOTE: I can't imagine anyone is surprised that distracted driving has overtaken drunk driving as the number one cause of death on the road. Please, y'all, keep your eyes sharp when you drive. The guy in the next car could be on a computer in the dash board (whoever dreamed that up should have to watch autopsies), while the one behind you is texting. It's important to be aware of those around you. The kid who ended my second to last life was in a huge SUV and on the telephone.
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