Depression Support Group

Hello all,

I have been a member and I was reading posts here for the longest time.

I seem to get lost in the shuffle in terms of support (in another group).

It is leading to feelings of more isolation.Offline I don't have much support as my illness spooked my "friends of 10yrs" to high tail it.

I put that in quotes because there was no sympathy or support and they take off. So I guess they were not my friends to begin with.

Now I am supporting others and find it hard to get it myself.

It is just a bad moment fueled by hormones. I get it all the time. I weather through it and sometimes I need a friend to take the ride with me.

Seems just lonely right now. It has me second guessing as to whether I should remain in that group.

**Mitzigirl has already given me a lift. Thank you for taking the time to do that. Wow..great doesn't even describe you mitzi.I am grateful and extend a hand to you anytime.

I hope you all find some sunshine in your life today. I know this will pass, as tomorrow is another day. For now it hurts.

I am glad to see you posting with us again. All of us needs a pick up from time to time including myself. THis group is always great to give me the support I need at times myself. I am only human like all the rest and have my bad days too.

You don't have to be lonely here you have all of us and there are several of us here. Glad you posted and ty for the kind words that means alot to me. Remember your never alone I really do care as I am sure others do too. Big Hugs and Many blessings to you!

some people are born caretakers some are born takers, some are born to stay true blue, some are born to run away.

This is a true blue site, I know the feeling, needing comfort yourself and no one gives it, but more and more others, seem to milk us dry of what little energy we have and still ask for more.

It is one of those days. And your entitle to it.

I call it my Pity Potty Days

I feel pity for myself, I cry, that makes my bladder active, I go potty...........lol

and that's the truth.

I'll put every sad song on I can find, cry my eyes out, then brush myself off, and determine, is the load I'm now carrying worth it?

Am I helping in others, something I need help with inside, as a means of soothing myself like I did as a child?

Should I stop this behavior, and tend to my own desires, and get my needs met, so I don't become drained again like this?

(tricky one here, lol)

does the md site have people that understand me, and take the time to let me know I am worth their support? (waiting for that answer j/k)

See if this helps, you can pm me at any time, I know where you are in life all too well.

But one of my answers is, I am a bullheaded person, and when someone is there for "moi" , I don't take the support.

My bad,

see we all have our fences to mend.

wolf

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Hey mitzigirl & DonnaLynne,

I appreciate the kind words. Yes we all need a pick up now and then. That is all I need or wanting to ask for. Just give me the kind push.

You both have done that and that was a priceless gift. I feel a second wind for today.

Lol@Pity Potty days. I definitely allow some room for that and I encourage others to have them. I do know that I pick myself up each time after that party.

Great words about having our fences to mend. Thanks for reminding me of that.

To you both ..thank you for reminding me that people care. Keep up what you do, being an inspiration to your group. You have done that for me!

Big hugs to you both..and to the group.

Hi hsshutterbug, it's nice to meet you (at least I don't think we've met before). Sorry you're having such a bad time right now. I understand about "friends" not being supportive. I've been through that myself and I know it's very hurtful. I know from past experience when you're having a really difficult time and others want you to hold them up, sometimes you just have to take a step back for a while and take care of yourself. You deserve it. I was always the one that friends and family came to to help solve their problems. I was experiencing debilitating migraines when first started getting them and didn't realize what they were at first. Thought for sure I had a brain tumor and was going to die. not kidding. I was in very dark place and still had friends complaining to me about their problems. I had to distance myself for a while in order to take care of myself. When I got handle on the migraines, I had no problem helping others again. But I'm not going to feel bad about needing to take care of myself for a while and neither should you. We're here cause we all suffer from depression and are here to give as well as get support from others going through the same thing. I hope that you are able to get the support you need here. I'm happy to listen to whatever you need to do, rant, vent, cry, whatever. So PM if you need to or just post and I'll answer as soon as I can. I think we're a pretty supportive group usually and it's a pretty good give and take ratio. Keep us posted on how you're doing. Hugs and God Bless.

Hello morhope2

I agree a step back is needed.

I have had migraines and know they can be painful and they would take me out for a few days.

Nowhere near your pain but same situation. People will come to you as the problem solver.

I keep reminding people that I need support as well. Thank you all on this page for the offer for pms and posts. That offer is there for you morhope2, DonnaLynne, mitzigirl and anyone else in this group.

It is a little better today but my depression is still lingering. Still undecided as to whether I go out today. So much bad luck has happened this week, I don't wish to be out with more of the public.

For you all, I wish a good day. A healthy mind day.

If you don't feel like being out just give yourself the space and time you need. Don't beat yourself up over it there are lots of us that simply don't feel like getting out. Today I think I will just take it easy try to give these knees a break and watch the tv I suppose. I hope you have a blesses Saturday and Glad to see you here today. Keep us posted how you are doing. Your part of our family here.

Hi there, I'm not sure what I can add here. I've been in the same situations you've all mentioned. But I do want to say hi to hsshutterbug and DonnaLynne. I don't think I've met either of you. I am one of the leaders of the group and hope to get to know both of you better. Welcome or welcome back.

Best, Sylvia

Thanks to you both Sylvia4648 and mitzigirl.

I look forward to getting to know you all. I wish that you all have a great weekend.

May your knees come back stronger than ever mitzigirl.

Really appreciate the warm welcome Sylvia. I admire the work here that group leaders do for this group. Quite the membership and you all find the energy, courage and smiles to share.

I am learning already and feeling better from this group.

Big hugs and may you all get a mental break.

hsshutterbug, glad to hear your depression is a little lighter today. It doesn't come overnight and doesn't leave overnight. I think it's more like a roller coaster where you have highs and lows, good and bad days. Not to the extent of mania obviously. So just hang in there and post away. This is a really great group of people on here and we all help each other out. Luckily we don't all have the bad days on the same day. So when one is feeling low, someone else can give them support. We do give and take, as it should be. So jump right in whenever you feel like it. Hugs and God Bless.