Do you have any hobbies or creativeness, this has been helping me through this episode....I start my therapy next week...I know that will make a big difference for me....sometimes it hurts like hell but the end result feels so good....

The biggest thing that has helped me all my life is Faith and asking for the strength to do little things...I'm not a church goer but have soooo much Faith....I can't imagine life without it....I send you a (((((((big hug)))))) and hope you are having a better day....Sue

Patsy

Patsy

I have a son who is 22 w/bp, I just had to put him out....I live with depression and I just couldn't bare his abuse and he just didn't want to help me help him....Course I had had it...He came home, being up all night drinking and had a seen....that was it for me....

I love him and it killed me to have him escorted out of my home but neither one of us was getting better...I to have been by his side in and out of hospitals...I was finding a way to work and be on the road to go see him...This last seen put me into a depression, I'm on a leave from work....

Yes it is easier said than done...but I am trying very hard to focus on myself and help him the best I can....I took him some food today and tomorrow he is comming over and he is going to finally co-operate with me to get his past medical bills paid and try to get disability....partial anyways....I'm going to do what I can to help him help himself...It's hard when I'm out of work on a mental sick leave myself....

Being a caring loving mother that has tried my best I can't turn my back completely, on the other hand I couldn't help him when he wasn't taking care of himself under my roof...

As you Patsy noone in my family understood his challanges, and never supported me through his younger years, fighting for him to get what he needed in school....His dad would even sit at the table with all of the teachers and just say he was lazy....I didn't support that comment, because I to struggled through school with no help at that....How I did it I don't know, I'm just very thankful....His dad just added to his challanges...People can be so cruel...I'm not...I love myself and my son and I do believe we will get to a better place in our life....I have faith....

I just couldn't help reading your posting and I thought it might have been for me....Sue

I so admire you for your strength to see what what needed to change and to take the steps to make it happen. I don't know that I have that much strength. It sounds as though the steps you took might have just the effect you wanted - he sounds as though he is at least making some effeort now. I pray you will both get the rest and peace you need to heal. When he is able to, he will recognize that you loved him enough to force his hand.

Patsy