Lori

You must watch the t.v. program "Intervention", which I believe is on A&E. This program depicts every type of addict. I've noticed how all addicts take advantage of their loved ones, some of which are enablers (co-dependents).

Words will not fulfill him, and his promises will usually lead to lies, over and over again.

You are the only person who can take a stance to end the cycle for yourself. He needs help too, but you have to decide for yourself what is it you want out of this relationship. How do you feel when he's high on Oxys? I'm sure it's not a good feeling.

I've read that pill addiction is one of the worst addictions. He may have created this "mess", but I see you are still in the mess with him. What good is that?

He may not be emotionally dead now, but he may be dead later down the road.

Don't be a giraffe and get your head out of the sand. This isn't going to get any better without some type of intervention on your part or his and it sounds as if he's not going to make the first move.

What I'm trying to say is act in a way where you won't have any regrets later down the long road that follows.

Please consider counseling if not for both of you, but for just yourself.

It will help you in the long run...

Good luck!

Hanginginthere

I'm sure you wish you knew where he was getting the stuff from, unfortunately it's probably not just out of curiousity or concern, but a way to try and stop him getting the pills. Even if you did find out where he's getting the stuff from, there's always another place he would be able to get more. A piece of advice that helped me out when my loved one's addiction was active was that - an addict is always two steps ahead of you so trying to stop where their supply comes from is not possible.

Also, as hard and uncaring as this sounds, grief and loss are not valid reasons to drink - rather they are excuses.

Try doing something for yourself today - even if it's 5 minutes, just to stop the crazy making behavior that addiction causes - for the addict and the codependent.