http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/feed http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/feed en-us Copyright (C) MDJunction.com. All rights reserved. Thu, 23 May 2013 22:42:04 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10581236-wounded-childadapted-child#10691379 Wow Redwood...you were describing me and today with hubby. Thank you...I did apologize...and we'll see how things go. He is also an adult child of an alcoholic parent...but doesn't recognize it...but well...we sound alike in our tapes. Your post here returned me to sanity...not sure what to do about it...but will reread tomorrow and pray for discernment on how to work on it.... Sat, 18 May 2013 18:18:19 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10645700-codependent-and-emotionally-abused#10691374 thanks cecilianna and redwood.... Sat, 18 May 2013 18:10:23 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10547033-my-codependent-relationship-is-over-now-what#10682810 I think there is a thread about coping with seperation or divorce or stages of recovery pinned to the top which might be helpful. Most of the others have mentioned a lot of the things that are on there. Mourning is the one thing that helped me finally the most. Accept that the relationship is over and be sad about it, because that's ok for a little while. :-). Gold star for even admitting the urge to call/text/email/practically stalk just knowing that means that you are on your way. Welcome to... Tue, 14 May 2013 21:20:59 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10655201-at-age-47-i-identified-with-codependentcy#10655201 I'm here to connect with others, give support, share, bring Global Awareness . After so many years of recovery in many things in my life, I'm now a Spiritual life Coach . I give others a voice. I have a story to tell...I lived it. I'm a miracle...a living survival, of (abuse, trauma, a dysfunctional family, domestic violence, Death within the family, close to my own death many times, disabilities, addiction and associating with those with addiction, codependency)... Wed, 01 May 2013 23:59:13 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10634558-alone-for-the-first-time-and-not-surviving/limitstart/30#10655086 Thats Great!!! Happy May!!! Another few days down I hope. Hope you have a good weekend.... Wed, 01 May 2013 21:23:51 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10605047-new-to-group-codependent-forever#10647562 Well for me, I didnt notice a pattern of men until after I had been with them for some time. My fiance now and ex do have some common issues that effect me. Unfortunately, like I said, I didnt realize it at first. So the only advice I can offer is from my moms perspective. Her father was a raging alcoholic and abuser. So when she went out looking for men, she made an effort to seek men with every quality her father didnt have. It was like everyday was opposite day. Give a guy a shot that you wou... Sun, 28 Apr 2013 08:38:45 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10631741-in-my-soul-searching#10643841 Hi Meltar: Redwood is right. A questionnaire is easy to find online and can tell you if you are codependent. The questionnaire here on the site is great. It is the same one I started to look at over 12 years ago and I was happy to see that I have made progress, although the challenges have been almost non-stop. My husband is an alcoholic in denial and this has brought many many issues into our lives and my codependency has probably made them worse...but it is hard for me to see that unles... Fri, 26 Apr 2013 08:04:22 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10622085-helping-us-all#10640900 LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU Redwood!!! Absolutely Great Idea!!... Wed, 24 Apr 2013 22:04:39 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10557200-realizing-my-addiction-and-in-withdrawal-with-broken-heart#10625180 Thanks for asking - a little shaky lately. You sound like you are really headed in the right direction; knowing the answer is within yourself. I know it too - it's just somewhat muddled. I am not sure where my responsibility ends and his begins - if it does at all. I guess that is part of the journey. There are a lot of issues like that where I can't figure out the boundaries. One of my friends was talking about how we are supposed to detach with love . Well you have one extreme of ... Wed, 17 Apr 2013 09:43:10 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/2954390-working-through-your-coda#10618087 Seems like I have been working on my co-dependence forever, but it has been about 17 years...in the midst of a lot of other stuff. I started with a Melanie Beatty book and only now can I say that I was able to release in love my family of origin...especially my Mom...who I spent a lifetime trying to please only to find that when Dad died...I went from her best friend and right arm ( perfect in every way even though I knew it wasn't true and made the step of telling her so...rapid change in at... Sun, 14 Apr 2013 08:17:26 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10617178-trying-to-find-out#10617178 Im trying to find out if IM codependant?... Sat, 13 Apr 2013 17:25:49 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10586383-going-solo-in-order-to-help-with-my-recovery#10611614 I am just starting to pamper me and spend time doing things for me, it is liberating but a little disconcerting though, I am hoping to be able to fully enjoy it soon.... Thu, 11 Apr 2013 09:14:36 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10606379-can-i-be-a-co-depandant-if-i-wasent-raised-in-a-dysfunctional-home#10606379 I was raised in a good bome Dad work mom took care of me and the house. I have four older siblings i was about 10 when the youngest of the boys left home. I was a late baby .My mom was 40 when she had me and my four older brothers were married or living their own life. At 12 My world fell apart when my dad died. After that i became angry,rebellious and at 13 i ran away. I became an addict and have been in unhealthy relationships until two yrs ago when I fell inlove with my bezt friend of 15 yrs.... Mon, 08 Apr 2013 23:07:28 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10606378-can-i-be-a-co-depandant-if-i-wasent-raised-in-a-dysfunctional-home#10606378 I was raised in a good bome Dad work mom took care of me and the house. I have four older siblings i was about 10 when the youngest of the boys left home. I was a late baby .My mom was 40 when she had me and my four older brothers were married or living their own life. At 12 My world fell apart when my dad died. After that i became angry,rebellious and at 13 i ran away. I became an addict and have been in unhealthy relationships until two yrs ago when I fell inlove with my bezt friend of 15 yrs.... Mon, 08 Apr 2013 23:06:59 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10549434-codependent-with-boyfriend-who-is-a-sex-addict#10604446 Ashlee: I am sorry - it sounds like you are in a sad place. :( What can you do for you? Can you turn your attention away from him and take care of you? I find that changes so much for me. When my attention is on my husband, what he is doing, if he is recovering, if he is in a good mood, I start to lose myself. My instinct in this situation is to get even more codependent. Try harder to make him happy, get his attention. It only backfires. At the end of the day the person left with ... Mon, 08 Apr 2013 03:44:36 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10603742-codependency-with-aspergers-bf#10603742 Hello, I am pulling my hair out trying to understand what I am supposed to do with my relationship with my bf. we are both late twenties have been together for about 18months. He has recently been diagnosed with aspergers and I have only just discovered I may be codependant. This is due to a childhood if emotional and physical anise from a violent father. (This is a very mild version of how much more was wrong but that's for another thread!) we have broken up many times after fits of rage from m... Sun, 07 Apr 2013 15:42:42 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10566230-i-am-seeing-clearer-now#10581194 One thing I am learning is it's not about them or what they do; it's about us and how we feel. I have put up with behaviors out of fear he will not love me or leave. I am not taking care of me when I do that. I have allowed him to bully me sometimes - how is that healthy? It doesn't mean I need to be confrontational, but the adult in me needs to protect the wounded child. When I read your post I hear between the lines (and tell me if I am seeing things that are not there). I am so luck... Thu, 28 Mar 2013 05:05:55 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10554804-i-think-i-am-codependent#10573442 Hi Chris88 how have things been. I just joined this group I'm 24 married f . I'm really sorry for all this heart ache and pain ,all the is waiting is what makes things difficult, Give it some time maybe after things cool off yall can try again. It's good to prepare your mind either way. I'm sure your still all of those things you listed you just don't feel like your normal self right now! Come on you just went through a break up!... Mon, 25 Mar 2013 01:45:25 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10523755-hello-new-here-can-i-pick-your-brains#10564142 Hey Nuttygal Welcome to the group. Sounds like your radar has already be altered to better states. Sounds like you have really pursued this Codependency. That is great and this man is a great way to work on your recovery. I think you should go with your gut feeling. Sounds like its on the right track. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing and we will reply with support for you. Take it easy and take care of yourself. Make some Me Time for You. Every single day do something th... Wed, 20 Mar 2013 18:47:03 -0700 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/dependent-personality-discussions/general-support/10547492-how-to-get-over-him#10549708 Yes, there a big chance he will come back, and in some ways that's the hardest part. This is the 2nd time he's called off our engagement and it looks like, unless I want to continue this roller coaster forever, that I need to get off it now. I'm completely devistated at the thought of life without him, but the thought of continuing life as it is seems pretty scary too. Right now everything is still pretty fresh so I'm just trying to take it minute to minute.... Thu, 14 Mar 2013 20:50:46 -0700