Death in the family Support Group

Hi everyone,

I am new to this website. I was searching for help online and here I am. My cousin who was like a sister to me passed away in a car accident last Friday. She was only 18. I was in Ireland at the time it happened and I feel so guilty not being there. Her brother committed suicide about 8 years ago and now my Aunt has only 1 child left. Our family was split up due to the grief but now I am hoping to try and get all of us back together again.

This has been the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. I still think of my cousin that killed himself 8 years ago. I just dont know how I am going to deal with this latest tradegy.

Dear pixiefly99

My soul go's out to you for the saddest of losses and twice

you have come to the right group, i hope we can make you feel you are not alone!

my heart felt thoughts and prayers go out to you and all your family at this so sad a time!

please look after yourself as i know myself grief eats you up!

hoping you can find some comfort from us all, so sorry for your loss!!

Hugs leigh xxxxxx

thank you so much Leigh! By the way, that was my cousins middle name. I know that it is going to take so long for me to get through this. Im still not over my 1st cousin after 8 years. Its a huge emotional roller coaster!

hope my name doesn't upset you, i hard isn't it, my mom died last years and their isn't a day go by that i'm not sobbing. i still doesn't get any better for me. but all the lovely support im getting on our group is keeping me going. i hope we can do the same for you!

hugs leigh

Pixie so sorry that you have been forced into such a tremendously hard journey, not once but twice. Grieving is something that sends us all flying on this emotional sphere that just keeps spinning round and round. Here on MDJ it is our hopes that together we can all join one and other to help us all to make this transition a little easier by knowing we are not alone and other too are trying to deal and to cope. I have lost three family memebers within 5 years and the latest was my sister, prior my father and prior to him my brother. We are never taught how to grieve and we are so alien to how to cope because the hurt just keeps hurting. Please post often when you feel the need to express some pain, let it out I have found it very helpful to hear and feel the compassion from so many. Share your cousins life with us she is still within your heart where i am sure she will remain. The missing is terribly hard and my heart goes to all that must suffer through this. You are not alone Pixie I really do hope you continue to share here and also hope that in a way, even the smallest of ways that we can give you some comfort.

Thoughts for you.

PS I will pray that your family can come together again. I am still trying to do that with my family. It is not uncommon for families to fall apart during times so trying. We all suffer in different ways and we all try so hard to keep that in mind but our pain is most obvious to us .......very sorry.

Karen / Lilsis

Karen, thank you so much for the kind words. She was so special to me. She was actually supposed to come stay with me for a while over the next couple of weeks.

She had just graduated high school and was planning on going to culinary school. She had plans to open her own restaurant. She had so much going for her. It helps me to think that everything happens for a reason. I think there was a greater plan for her and it was her time to go. I had hoped to see her get married one day and have children. I have to keep beleiving that something great will come out of all of this and I am hoping that the family with be that "something."

Pixie, I am so sorry to hear about the tragic loss of your special cousin. I am always speechless to hear about such horrible events. Loss like that, I wouldn't wish on anyone.

I lost both my dad and my best friend last year. My dad's health was ppor, but I still miss him every day. My friend's death was unexpected, from heart failure; he was 41.

With the loss of your other cousin to suicide, I'm sure your family has never been quite the same since. Sudden deaths raise a lot of hard emotions in people, extreme guilt, shock, anger.

I'm glad you found us here at Web MD. It has been a huge source of comfort to me to have a place to release my thoughts surrounded by people who will listen, understand, and be supportive.

Wishing you some peace...Sara

Hugs Pixie, I am so sorry. Suicide can really tear a family apart, or brings you close together, well, any kind of tragic thing, like death will do that. I am sorry about your Cousin, I am sure he wasn't thinking when he ended his life.

As far as you feeling guilty about your cousin dying in the car accident you can't blame yourself, or feel bad, you had no idea what was going to happen none of us do. I was in a Car accident a few years ago, and my best friend and I got hit by a drunk driver, he died, and I lived, I still feel guilty sometimes, but its like, how were we suppose to know.

I hope you find the Love and Support you need here, there are many kind, and understanding, and supportive people here. We are here to help. Hugs and Love! <3