Death in the family Support Group

Im pretty new to this group just havent ever posted. I lost one of my precious brothers in Nov. 08 after a long year of struggling to come back to us after suffering a anueryisum which left him a vegtable state for 10 months. Just bareley starting to grieve for him and dad goes in for blockage in his neck and suffers a massive stroke in surgery. Typing this seems like a dream!!!!! Im MAD!!!! Why did this have to happen???? Two of the most precious men in my life besides my wonderful husband and my precious sons and they are taken from us all. Life stinks at the moment for me. Im so tired to hurting and crying but my heart is still hurting for them both everyday. Dad passed away on May 29, 2009, 6 months after my brother. I remember all those days I would go sit with my brother and talk about old times and how we lived through our childhood yrs and he would just look at me and sometimes a little tear would fall from his eyes,he hadnt spoke in 10 months by the time he left us all and I remember daddy saying he just hoped we went fast and who was to know how soon that would actually be for us all. I dont know if anyone else feels this way, with all the anger or not but, I dont know how to handle it. Darlene

I have felt that kind of anger and found that it was best for me to turn it around to something more obtainable for me. I decided that i could give to others who may feel as i did and at times still do. I NEEDED that energy to go toward something positive.

I posted something i found that relates to grieving and anger. PLEASE read it when you can.

My thoughts for peace are with you

Karen

Post edited by: Lilsis, at: 09/01/2009 12:03 PM

I am so sorry for you losses, Darlene. Dealing with grief is life trying to put together a puzzle after it's been through a blender. It will never be the same.

My heart goes out to you. Losing someone close to you does feel like a dream, a terrible one at that.

Take care...Sara

Hi, I am new to this group.I loss my dad in my arms when i was 18 yrs old. i loss two of my older brothers one in 1998 and one in 2002

i miss them terribly. i loss my best friend age 12 she died in front of me while she was talking to me about pain. she died of cancer. i am a cancer survivor. i miss her also so much.

it was tough fighting cancer when i knew i was never as strong as she was. she was my strength through it all. was like a big sister to me at that time. my brother who died in 1998 was 37 yrs old.

my other brother who died in 2002 was 43. he was holding my hand staring at me .his baby sister when he died. i never saw a peace feeling in the room as i experience his death. he never let go of my hand. i cry when i think of my family members and best friend and i will always cherished my memories i have with them.

Stay strong and write me anytime.

Hello Sosore reading your post here is very difficult. The pain you have been dealing with all this time must have been difficult. The missing never stops, the ache and the yearning i believe will always be there on different level of intensity. I lost my Dad to a sudden heart attack, I lost my Brother 42, to oral cancer, and last Aug. my Sister and best friend to depression, anorexia. Its been very difficult and not once did i ever imagine such loss at in such a short period of time. All within 5 years.

Its wonderful news however that you have fought cancer and survived. My mother is currently fighting cancer she had a mastectomy a year and a half ago and has not been on chemo or radiation, although the doctors repeatedly tried to enforcer it. She is doing well, the doctors are surprised but are encouraged. There is still cancer active within her body, (maybe bones) but with all honesty you would not know she was ill. She is however suffering alot of pain and is continually upping the pain killers. My hopes are that she stays with us, but not to have her suffer. Cancer is frightening and YOU won the battle.

Thanks for listening.

Karen

I am so sorry honey, I really don't know what to say. Just know they are no longer struggling, and they are still with you, and watching over you. I know it doesn't help much, but sometimes just knowing someone is here, and cares for you will go a long way. I am here for you, if you ever need someone to talk to. Hugs and Love.