Death in the family Support Group

In less than two weeks, it will be the 2 year anniversary of mom's unexpected death. It shattered me to loose the mom of my childhood and friend in my adulthood. In the first year, many times it didn't feel quite real that she was truely gone. Coming now, on the 2nd year, I miss all the things we shared and did and know the reality, that she is gone forever. Never again to see her smile, hear her laugh and share good times with. She exists now, only in my heart and my heart is broken, since the day she left. When mom died, a part of me died. I truely feel that way. I am not the same person I was by any means. Loosing someone really hurts and the void is always there. I just learn to live with it but it hurts on such a deep level

I know what you mean. I lost my Mom almost 2 months ago. There are days when it seems so unfair that life for everyone else goes on like normal. I don't know if I'll ever know "normal" again..

Lauren, I know what you mean. My Dad died on 4/29 so I know what you mean. I have needed to talk to my dad several times this summer. I wanted to pick up the phone and couldn't.I'm lucky however. My mom's significant other, Dan, is like a father to me. He'd give Barb and I the shirt off his back if he thought it would help us...God Bless Him.

Post edited by: scotty04901, at: 08/03/2009 06:14 PM

You're very blessed in that sense,Scotty. Although there is no one like our Mom and Dad,it's nice that you have a father figure in your life. When My husband and I had our children(17,15,11 and 3yrs),all of the Grandparents were alive. 2 Great-Grandma's, 2 Grandma's,1 Great-Aunt,who was always our kids Grandma. Their all gone now. In 2 years we lost 3 Grandma's,and 2 Aunts.

Want a laugh? That father figure is about my age 52. Mom will be 85

LOL. I had to laugh. My Dad's wife is 9 years old than me.

All that matters is that they are happy. As I said, Dan would do whatever he could to help us.He's more than just a friend to Barb and me

I feel the same way. She's certainly not my Mother,but a very dear friend.

I wish I had someone to fill that void left by mom. It would help a little but no grandparents living, and my mother-in-law while a good person, doesn't quite fit the role I would need. I miss my mom more than words could ever say. Two years is a long time, not to have your loved one around. It's a lifetime in my heart and it's so very hard to bare, yet another anniversary of her death.

Post edited by: Peace4Rach, at: 08/04/2009 04:38 AM

That void we feel is never really filled by another is it. Its the thought of being that person we were before the loss that one that smiled and laughed and cried with our loved ones gone. I believe when my sister passed away a piece of me went with her. I try to find some comfort knowing that void in my heart is her place to stay and that piece of me missing is with her always. Her 1st year is aproaching Aug 15th......holding my breath

Karen xx