Death in the family Support Group

i think my mind is starting to tell me, ok this death drama is over. your getting better, now lets get back to normal.. and call/visit/write your mother.

Or, maybe my mind is shouting at me, you have never gone this long without talking to her, this is too long to be mad at her, or too long to have been busy..you need to talk to her now! its instinct. I had a dream 2 nights ago. i was talking to my mother, just like gossip.."mom, you wouldnt beleive it, but you were in a coffin for at least 2 days, really you were. and you would not believe how they made you look, you looked like an old lady! I bet you are so glad you are out of there" and my mom said "well, it didnt seem that long, but i got tonz of stuff to get caught up on. i got to get out to my garden" but, mom really, you were actually in a coffin!" I woke up this morning and must of had another dream i didnt remember, because when i woke up i was so panic'd, so worried... i gave my mothers close away months ago, and she is going to be upset, she isnt going to have anything, But..i still have those 2 new shirts of hers i put away! i better get up and pull them out.

You are going through some very normal things right now. Don' t ever think you are not normal. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. What works for one may not work for someone else. Just know that you have friends here that get it.

Sue

Hi

My Mom died 5 months ago and every once in awhile I think she is still here. I had dreams like that when my uncle died. I knew he was really alive but others wouldn't understan so he had to hide from them. loll

In the first year after my Mom passed, I would actually forget for a moment and pick up the phone to call her. I can't believe that I could have forgotten but I think it was just that our bond could not be broken by death.

Sue