Celebrity crushes were definitely one of the clues I had that I might not be straight. You sound like you're still figuring out who you're attracted to. That's ok; you don't have to have a complete answer right now. I know it's hard, but try to just see who you're attracted to without judging yourself for it. It's ok to like boys and girls, and it's ok to like blonds and redheads. And that rush of attraction you're feeling? That's also normal. Most people refer to them as crushes, but they can feel a lot like love at first. You may feel less nervous about them if you consider them "falling in like." Love takes a little bit longer to develop. As far as coming out... If you come out to your boyfriend and he dumps you, I know it will hurt but I can absolutely promise you'll find someone better who appreciates you for the person you are. But he may surprise you by being accepting. Have you talked with him about bisexual people "in general" to see what his take on the subject is when it's not about you personally? That might be a good starting point to see how he's likely to react. Some people will surprise you with how accepting they are. Some people may react poorly at first, but given a little time will come around and accept you. Some will probably react poorly period. The people who can't accept and love you for who you are aren't worth the time. There's nothing wrong with you; they're the ones with the problem. Keep in mind that I'm not a medical professional, and my advice is based on personal experience. |
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