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03/14/2009 04:35 PM
skittle0407
 
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Ok, so Bits and I have something in common and we thought maybe we are not alone.........we have difficulty talking on the phone. For me holding the phone with hand or in between shoulder and neck is agonizing. I have so much pain and can barely move after even a short conversation. I do use the speaker phone function when home alone but is not practical all the time. I have also tried the headset things that some use for cell phones but it is awkward and the reception poor, I have trouble following as it is. I use to have trouble paying attention to the conversation when I was on more meds. and still have difficulty with distractions. Anyone else suffering like us? What do you do and how do you tell people without hurting feelings that you have to go or can't talk?
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03/14/2009 04:56 PM  Top
babies1
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Hi, I don't really have a problem with talking on the phone, if I even answer it. I usually don't, I let the machine pick it up, then I work up to calling the person back. Maybe you could try this, calling back when your pain is a little better. hugs, jenny
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03/14/2009 08:30 PM  Top
bits
bits
 
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I rarely talk on the phone anymore. It hurts my hands to hold the phone and many times I am too fatigued to talk. Mostly, I have to make a choice such as...do I talk for awhile or do I fix supper. I used to miss phone talk greatly, but time has passed and now it is not so important. I talk to my sister maybe once a month and my best friend maybe every 2 months. They understand and will often leave messages to encourage me. In fact, I have a wonderful friend (I met a few years ago) that calls me often to leave encouraging words. Viv is the only one I talk to more than once a month. On my great days (sometimes good ones) I usually call my family and friends. Of course, I never turn down a call from my kids. But their calls tend to be short. And the mother instinct is way too strong to refuse their calls. LOL. Yes, Denise an I were wondering do others have this issue. Hugs
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03/15/2009 10:16 AM  Top
Dixie4me
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I'm so glad you have a such a great friend bits. Mine were not understanding at all. I guess the ability to gossip was more important than the actual friendship. I don't get any calls anymore. That's ok, because like you it hurts to talk on the phone or I am just too darn tired. All my kids live with me but one and he never calls because he is mad at meSad My mom will text me occasionally.

I thank God for my wonderful supporting husband!

What a caterpillar call the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.

03/16/2009 05:48 PM  Top
fluffyluggage
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It can be very hard for me to talk on the phone, not only painful, but hard to concentrate on what to talk about. I don't have any kind of speakerphone that I know of on my home phone, but I know that I hate people to put ME on speaker, cuz I have a hard time hearing, so I don't use it on my cell, even though I have it. I've learned to prop my arms up on something to hold the phone or just keep the convo short. I find myself yawning a lot on the phone, and my friends know I'm sick, so they usually recognize when it's time to let me go. They also are really cool about me not answering when I don't feel well and just returning calls. Hey, that's what caller ID and voicemail are for!

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I'm not a doc, so anything I say is my opinion only. Nothing I say is meant as offense, I offer what I can as help. I believe in educating myself on all my medical issues and being my own advocate, for no one else with do that on my behalf. I recommend we all do the same!

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Perhaps I truly am insane for expecting these docs to listen to me when I say the same things repeatedly to no avail? LOL. I am tired of seeking out new docs and getting the same result time and again...Forgive me if I seem bitter some days.

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