Caregivers Support Group

After the death of my moms significant other,in February she has come to live with me. I never dreamed this would be so difficult. My mother os ver strong willed and I have a difficult time getting her to bathe. She can say some pretty hurtful things to me too.

How can I get her to shower with out a confrontation each time. She insists that she takes baths, but she is remembering what she use to do when she was much younger and before she had her open heart surgery and leg surgery that left her not as mobile and she use to be. Any suggeustions will be greatly appreciated,

this seems to be the normal with dementia. in her mind, she probally

remembers taking a bath. it may have been a month ago, but to her it

was today.

have you considered getting home health care? she may respond better

to strangers. a lot do.

do you have anyone to assist you? maybe other family members?

just remember, you also have to take care of you. if you get down, who

will care for her.

sorry, not much help, but it does help to get it out. please keep posting. maybe someone else can offer more help.

God bless

joyce

Thank you Joyce for your insight. I will have to look into homehealth. As far as family assisting, my one brother who is wonderful about helping was diagnosed recently with Pancreatic Cancer so I try not to bother him to much as he is going through alot right now.

i am soooo sorry. you really do have your hands full.

if your mom has medicare, and her dr will order it, medicare will pay

100% of home health costs. they can also provide respite care, if

needed. they can also work with her thru physical therapy

to help keep her mobile.

good luck and God bless,

joyce

Oh my gosh...you really do have alot on your plate. I think home health care would be good also. I don't know how much that costs, or if you can get it through medicare....but it would ease your mind too because they can do alot of different things. There are also groups if you look around that help. There is a group here that is called something like Angels for Seniors. But I think they charge also. That is my problem. Everyone wants to charge us financially and we just don't have any extra money to pay for those services. The house is a mess and Mom could use some help bathing and things too, but just can't afford it. She does have the "transitional" shower chair and that helps. She refused to use it for a long time.

I hope you find some help with your Mom. You were so blessed to have a brother that is helpful (mine won't do ONE THING for Mom) and then he gets ill. I'm soooooo sorry. (((HUGS))) I hope he is doing alright. I'll pray for him and the rest of your family..........Beth