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05/23/2011 08:07 AM
tomboykimi
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My mom has/had Myelodisplasia. And even though she is cancer free, per say, she still has "issues" how do you cope with these issues? She gets angry easily, and acuses me of doing things, i didnt do. And i know that because of the chemo, some people's brains change. Am i alone in my suffering with people like her? Or is it something that everyone goes through?
*I am only a person who deals with these conditions, and NOT a doctor in anyway (and believe me, you wouldn't want me to be one anyway.) I am giving the advice of someone who as been through it. If you are looking for advice that is meant to cure, or diagnose, please consult a doctor.*

Jeremiah 29:11-12 (New International Version)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.
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05/23/2011 06:12 PM  Top
1magicman
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Hello tomboy kimi:

First off did your mom have chemo? This is very important if she had surgery. Cancer spreads like wild fire immediately when the body is exposed to air and can spread to other parts of the body. It is very normal for a cancer patient to become depressed. My father was the same way. But me and my brother kept his spirits up by encouraging him to keep doing what he loved to do and that was working on old cars and showing his work. We can't give up hope on our loved ones. It's hard to think about what is ahead. But it's what we do for them that will last in our harts forever. My advice is to share as much as possible no matter how much it hurts. It has strong benefits and it will appreciated in the long run. Don't give up hope. Hold on to it and never let go.

( Hope To Cope ) Scott

05/24/2011 11:39 AM  Top
tomboykimi
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yes. She had chemo (she had what i call "alien"shots... the shot was green... lime green.) and she had a bome marrow transplant.
*I am only a person who deals with these conditions, and NOT a doctor in anyway (and believe me, you wouldn't want me to be one anyway.) I am giving the advice of someone who as been through it. If you are looking for advice that is meant to cure, or diagnose, please consult a doctor.*

Jeremiah 29:11-12 (New International Version)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.

05/24/2011 04:30 PM  Top
1magicman
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Oh good. It's hard when a family member has or had cancer and to stand by and watch and know how much pain there going through. Be we have to try and not show it. We have to stay strong for them. If we show we are weak then intend to give up themselves. So hang in there she is cancer free. Keep up on doctor appointments and if you have any doubt about anything don't hesitate to get another opinion. I hope your mom stays cancer free fron here out.

( Hope To Cope ) Scott

05/25/2011 04:33 AM  Top
tomboykimi
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yea, i get to see it from a new set of eyes. i was born with hydrocephalus. And my mom felt that for all my life. Like, she knew i was in pain, but there was nothing she could do. And i had to go for some pretty bad tests. And she just had to sit and watch. Last time, we were getting any answers, and i almost died. And it hurt me to see my mom cry. Because i felt like i upset her. And that she was upset with me. and my problems are resurfacing, and i dont want tosee her cry again.
*I am only a person who deals with these conditions, and NOT a doctor in anyway (and believe me, you wouldn't want me to be one anyway.) I am giving the advice of someone who as been through it. If you are looking for advice that is meant to cure, or diagnose, please consult a doctor.*

Jeremiah 29:11-12 (New International Version)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.
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