Bulimia Nervosa Support Group

I was reading a post from a member regarding things getting difficult and as I was sending encouragement, a thought came to mind. Things for me ALWAYS seem to be difficult!! I am wallowing in all the crap around me and giving in so freely to the bulemia... using it as a crutch. My daughter the emotionally unstable bipolar(once again) managed to get herself into trouble, upsetting all of us, particularly the grandparents. Raise the circus tents and que the music. I guess the message is.... if we wait until things "settle down" to get healthy, then we will never be healthy. We need to attack this disease in the thick of all the emotion

Very true. My issue isn't family stress, but work-related. I keep thinking that once I find a new job, or the one I have gets less stressful, then my other problems (like bulimia) will work themselves out. But that isn't true, I need to do something now. The trouble is, how to start...

We need to start now... we don't need a particular day, we can start mid afternoon or evening! My job is stressful too (love the job HATE the long hours) and frankly... I have my resume out there. Don't know what will come, but have to search

Thank you for posting this. For me, i am a stay at home mom, and I truly dont feel stress from that. I dont feel like life is bad. But I do have Aspergers. You can think of it as a very mild form of Autism. Mostly, there is a lot of social anxiety. I feel like to get through events and experiences outside of the home, I have to act like someone Im not. Social situations scare me bc Im dont intuitivly know what to do. I feel like recently my bulimia has gotten bad because more is expected of me outside of the house and its almost like Im dealing with it through my B&G episodes. Im smart enough to know that that isnt a healthy way to deal with it, but its not like I can just switch it off. I need to find other outlets....

What about seeing a speech-language therapist who can help strengthen your social skills?

I think that would have been great advice when i was younger. Now, Ive sort of taught myself through experience how to interact with other people. I think most people that meet me would never imagine that I have Aspergers. Its not that I "cant" participate in social situations....Its just not natural for me and I'd prefer not to. Its overwhelming on so many different levels, and afterwards, I really need time to decompress. Its hard work pretending to be "normal". Its funny bc until i joined this site, I couldnt think of possible triggers. Just the act of writing (or typing) my thoughts is really helping me put everything together.

Since I was diagnosed with a type of Bipolar Depression, I have become very withdrawn and loathe social outings a I too--for different reasons--feel like I am acting and wonder how many other people are. My husband is so sociable and I can't figure out how he does it. I used to be but now i can't be bothered with small talk, it's like my mind is blank, I have nothing to say to these people who don't interest me (and whom I know I will likely never see again).

That is totally how I feel. Its funny how you described your husband too...my husband is the exact opposite of me in that department, always making friends and talking to everyone so easily every where he goes.

I absolutely agree with the "small talk" statement. I worry that I have become jaded. Seriously, i don't want to chat it up with people. I dislike it when strangers (new employees, patients ect..) feel the need to ask personal questions. they are doing it to be friendly and it is the social norm, but honestly, I don't care about all the trivial details of their lives, and don't want to share mine...

I am also afraid that people will see right through me and like many of us here, we have poor perceptions of ourselves. i feel like they will see the bad side of me and so I have become very quiet. I think I have even lost my sense of humour too. And here I used to be a group leader for 40 people. But it's different, it was leading, not having fun and socializing. I just feel like I am losing myself in this ED and BP. We have to remember that we have our disorders, we are not our disorders.