Borderline Personality Support Group

A big trigger for me in wanting to do something dramatic to show I'm upset is basically people showing or indicating by what they say that they don't care.

I have to try really hard not to take it out on myself or anyone else if I feel that people don't care and treat you badly. Lately it's mental health services that I feel angry. I've imagined doing all sorts of bad things because I've felt angry that they don't care, but I've been strong enough to follow it down the official route of making a formal complaint instead.

I also hereby make a formal complaint against parents and those family members who have not wanted to be there for me and have been downright abusive and uncaring. Huh! I wish! Where would that get you anyway!

hi linda,

yes, that's a trigger for me too. if i feel like my voice isn't being heard. unfortunately i care deeply about what people think about me and it drives me literally crazy if i think they have a bad opinion of me. or if i think they blame me for something. it throws me into a depression easily.

I think particularly with mental health service providers it just makes me angry to think that they don't really care what happens to you. It proved that when I took an overdose last year and the only response I got was them saying 'I hear your blaming us'. I was blaming them for their lack of support, obviously not for taking the overdose. I took that when I was feeling really low and not being listened to.

The trouble is I know that I can't live like this anymore, hoping that people will care about me, because I know that they most people are too caught up with their own lives to worry about others, even the mental health professionals. It's sad, but it's a hard lesson that I've learnt. I am not saying that about people here but in real life there seem to be very few people who care about others. I don't know why I need others to care about me, as I do have a husband who loves me, so I'm not sure why I have needed others to care about me. I've learnt not to expect anything now.