Borderline Personality Support Group

Maybe this BPD is actually a condition that reflects missing inner boundaries. These boundaries contain the mental, spiritual, emotional and cognitive chemicals. Not possessing these boundaries would result in constant confusion, uncertainty about self, relationships and blurring between self and others. Black and white splitting is the result of lack of these inner boundaries as processing of consciousness has no *choice* but to pass through the primitive reactive areas of the brain.

Why are these boundaries *missing*? Somewhere along the way someone *trespassed* and violated your spiritual boundaries through an act that could not be forgiven due to age. It was simply too much for consciousness to bear and so these boundaries ceased to function and in time - have atrophied. It would seem that the way back in a complete CURE from this disorder would be to breathe life back into these *lost* boundaries. To rebuild the structure. The mind can recover. All that is needed is to name the issue. The rebuilding will require a huge amount of self-will and faith. But rebuild, we surely can.

OFC

I somewhat agree, but there are also biological causes of BPD as well. Brain chemistry and all that fun stuff. There unfortunately is no cure, just recovery. Depending on how you react to treatment and what other disorders you may or may not have(the majority of people with BPD have comorbid disorders), the episodes will come further apart. It's something that will have to be worked on and skills that will have to be used throughout our lives. Boundaries are a big part of it though.

I have major issues with boundaries, when it comes to relationships I always find myself playing the "martyr" or "victim". It is to no other's fault but my own, because I keep going back to unhealthy people that cause my great emotional harm and through that, I find that I allow the other person to condition me to think that I am a worthless piece of shit and going no where in life. I have decided that there will be no more second chances in relationships, if I am crossed, I will not go back. Its sad, because there are people out there that deserve a second chance

There is no negation as to this being biological - as the entire psyche is comprised of both the ethereal and the physical. This could also possibly be genetic as predispositions are inclined to be in certain gene pools - or at least a leaning toward the proclivity where the condition lies dormant until a trigger within the *right* conditions - could potentially set it off. Having the gene doesn't necessarily mean it will manifest but like all cycles - they tend to be perpetuated until broken or healed.

And yes this can be healed - because the mind is neuroplastic - which essentially means if injured or something gets turned off or misdirected - it CAN heal itself. However it needs to be *told* in the language it understands. The program needs to be written.

OFC

Yep, having no boundaries sucks and is bloody painful. At one point you just have to seize the reigns though and declare - enough is enough. This usually happens at the lowest and darkest of places - where we're in puddles of tears etc. But that's the break it or make it moment and if you know how to recognize it when it arrives you can start the process of reclaiming your power and what is ok and what is not ok. Simple things. The starting point has to be established though and it has to register that *this is it. no more. the cycle is going to break now*. And then you don't look back. It's rising up from the ashes. Like the Phoenix.

OFC

Saying that it can be cured is the same as saying that bipolar, depression, or any other psychological disorder, or any physical disorder can be healed. It is not okay to me to get people's hopes up that there is a cure because as of right now there isn't, there is recovery which is not the same.

Every single illness and disorder can be cured. They just haven't known where to look or else in a rather disturbing hypothesis, men in white lab coats and the so-called *experts* out there have chosen specifically to keep a growing by the nano-second certain segment of the population tethered to pills and administration feeding the fear with more fear. Best way to keep the masses confused, small and fearful is to be the Keeper of the Medicine. Or Big Pharma, as the case may be.

OFC

Yes, but there is no medication for BPD, so there's no interest in keeping people on pills in this case. Either way, I don't in any way believe that every illness can be cured. At least not at the moment. There may be things in the future that are found, but as it is that isn't the case. As bad as feeding fear is feeding false expectations. It's fine to share things that have worked for you, but we are here for support and understanding.

As it says in every group leaders signature, we are not doctors. We can't diagnose each other or in all honesty, I will admit even on my part, say for sure one way or another whether something will or will not work for everyone. There is a definite difference between fact and opinion and I believe it needs to be clearly stated when posting things such as this.

The mind is the most powerful organ ever created. There are NO LIMITATIONS on its abilities. To learn, to grown, to expand, to heal and to become heaven on earth. There are no limits. As you believe - so you are. If you believe you are limited, sick or stuck - it will be so. BPD is the end result of extremely negative belief systems gone haywire and the SELF-DESTRUCT buttons have all been pushed. To turn this around is to STOP PUSHING THOSE BUTTONS and move into another frame of mind completely into the world of the living, thriving - into the light and connectedness. The pills?

The self medicating? The pain is medicated away by pharmaceuticals, alcohol - anything to take the pain away. Pain is the constant. Even in growth there is pain but it is relatively short lived in comparison to living HELL with BPD. And once the connectedness begins, the pain WILL lessen. It does get better. One thought at a time. Exchanging one negative thought for one positive is the beginning. Believe you can be CURED. Believe it. That's the first step of the cure from BPD.

OFC

I agree that positive thought, belief, hard work, and change can lead to RECOVERY. The mind is powerful, but you can't change the chemical makeup of your brain. That's like saying if your try hard enough you can change your age or eye color. People don't have mental or physical illness because they believe they do. We don't wake up one day and say "hey, I think I will have bipolar, depression, cancer, AIDS, diabetes, etc. Some we are born with, some we develop, but they are all illnesses and not choices.