Borderline Personality Support Group

After playing maid to the rest of the house I've neglected to clean the room I share with my fiance' I've been saying I was going to clean it since before Christmas, but I've yet to do a thing...I haven't had to do much house work because of everyone having off for the holidays I go up to clean and find myself laying in bed staring at the ceiling, since I won't turn on the tv because it would be distracting lol the room gets to be more and more of a hassle to do and within five minutes of starting I get so frustrated I give up...so dose anyone have any ideas on how to stay focused about the task at hand??

Try just cleaning up one spot, or only doing one thing. I get like that when I have to clean our room, too. I'll usually just clean the side table, or only throw out all the empty cigarette packs. It's something small that helps me feel productive without being overwhelming. Plus it gives me something to compare the rest of the room with. I let the room go pretty badly these past two weeks, and wound up throwing out 20 soda cans and 17 soda bottles, but it left so much more space it didn't feel like such a big tast when I was done, and I could clean the rest of the room pretty easily after that.

Oof, I wish I had better advice on this. That's one of my weak points as well. The one thing I found that really helped was hiring a professional organizer to help me keep focused. But that was a special treat and normally out of my price range.

It's a reflection of what's going on in the relationship. There's procrastination - there's ambivalence and you're kind of miffed - so that's why you've let this go. The house is a reflection of our inner worlds. Right now I have little clumps of things all over. Stuff that needs to be dealt with - and it's in my face, so I have no choice but to deal with it because I don't do ugly or unnerving and this has got the potential for that.

House is speaking to you. That room is telling you that there's a problem in the relationship. Fix the relationship - the room will become a clean haven.

Annabeth I took your advice before I even read it lol.

I started with one shelf and made my way around the room at a few points I was ready to give up so I just sat down had myself a smoke and then kept on going After taking all the dishes and recyclable stuff out it wasn't so bad ....so 12 soda/juice bottles 15 cups,4 dishes 4 spoons, a knife, 3 forks two bags of trash and alto of organizing, and putting away clothes later my room is clean and I'm very happy with it. When my fiance' cam home he was amazed, and my best friend kept saying "It's so clean in here" I told everyone if you come in my room whatever you bring in make sure it finds it's way to a trash can or leaves with you. I'm going to try to commit to a few min everyday putting things where they belong so I never have to spend five hours cleaning ever again.

That's awesome, way to go