Borderline Personality Support Group

I am going to set a goal for myself. I encourage others to do the same. My goal is to not act on my evening time impulses. To help with this goal, I am going to ask myself a series of questions about what I hope to accomplish by giving into the impulse and what the reactions could be. I will keep you posted! I also plan using an ice cube to hold on my wrist until my emotion changes.

I hope it helps. My mom used to put pictures of goals up where she could see them and remind herself why she was doing things. Like next to where she kept her purse she had up a picture of the camper she wanted to get. It took 2 years to save up, but she got one!!! And it was pretty bitchin', if that word can be applied to a camper

Also, something that really helped me, I used to have a "Can't Jar." Whenever I caught myself saying or thinking the word "can't" in reference to me doing something I knew I COULD do I'd put a quarter in the jar. Like, "I can't get this paper done by Wednesday." BAM! Quarter in the jar. It was a visual reminder of what I was wasting by putting that negativity in my head. Plus when it was full I could take those negative quarters out of the jar and treat myself to pizza or a t-shirt or something. Turn the negative into a positive. Might work for you!

Let me know how the ice cube thing works. I keep forgetting to try it

Thanks for the ideas. I just thought of one that is a spin off yours. Every night that I am feeling impulsive and overwhelmed with emotions, I can put a dollar in a jar. As I put the dollar in the jar, that will be my reminder to do the ice cube thing. My idea is that if I have to " pay" to feel like that - then I will do my best to avoid feeling like that. I'll let you know how it goes!

Awesome

I tried the ice cube on my wrist thing. It took only about 15-20 seconds before it felt so uncomfortable I had to remove it. I am not sure if it changed my mood but it did change my emotions for a brief period of time. I also tried sticking my face in cold water but my sink is only big enough to stick half my face in it. I am going to get a pan to use for this because this seemed to help me.

That always seemed a little extreme to me. I just use a towel I ran under cold water.

Let me know how that goes, good luck

I love that jar idea. The other day I got sad because of something small that happened with my friend, so I wrote down on a sticky note that I was "letting it go".. then I burnt the little piece of paper when I went for a smoke. Then whenever I started thinking about that I reminded myself that it was burnt and gone and let go.

I have such a wierd relationship with goals. I never got into doing them because well, I never did them, then I would just feel worse for not following through. Because my interests and my motivations change so quickly I might feel gung-ho about accomplishing something one minute, then it doesn't matter at all the next.

Yeah, I'm the same way. Last night I was completely convinced I wanted to start a cover band lol. Today I was thinking about it and realized I would never have the time.

I bought the pan I need something extreme!