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antifmsmary33 Posts: 9
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I am engaged to the love of my life. He is magnificent. I love him so much I'm going insane. My best friend, is my ex girlfriend. I am in love with her. BIG TIME! She doesn't know it, and he doesn't know it. I am so lost I don't know what to do! I am afraid if I tell him, he will be mad, even though he supports my bisexuality. And I am scared to tell her because I dont want to ruin our wonderful friendship of 8 years. Help? Namaste, Mary
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BabyNotSoBeautiful
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Welcome to the group first of all! And that sounds like something I just went through, only though I was the 'bestfriend'... I think, that if you have enough trust in your relationship with your husband, then you should have no problems once you tell him.. Yeh, sure, he will probably be upset for the first little while, but I'm sure that after you tell him, things will get better for you. Then you might not even have to tell your best friend. My situation: my best friend was getting married to my cousin, and apparently she was madly in love with me for the longest time.. She was so afraid to tell me ! But she put her trust in me, and she trusted that our friendship was strong enough, so she told me. Were still beat friends, and she's happily married to her man. |
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Annabeth Posts: 1558
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Do you want to be w/ your best friend? It's that sinking feeling of being alone, and it's the way it makes you screech and pulls the skin off your bones, and I can't help but think, as I pick my mouth off the floor; Will you still know me in a year? |
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Hrothgar  Posts: 222
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Sounds like we need a Poly group! narcolepsy, osteoarthritis, migraines, edometriosis, bursitis, fibromyalgia, sciatica from lower back deformity, dry eyes, menopause, and recurrent adhesive capsulitis.
not an expert, just know what has worked for me so far!
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antifmsmary33 Posts: 9
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Well, I thought that I did want to be with her, but since she has moved back we have spent more time together, and she has changed A LOT. Apparently we dont have that much in common...yet I still long to be with her. Namaste, Mary Previous discussions I participated in: New Here |
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BabyNotSoBeautiful
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I think you should confide in your friend, tell her how you feel, then contemplate your decision from there. You love your man, you love your friend, but are you willing to give up a marriage to be in a relationship, that may not even last? Sorry if that sounds a bit harsh.. |
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antifmsmary33 Posts: 9
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No absolutly not. That is exactly what I am going through. I have talked to her since my post, and she has made it clear that she will always love me but isnt interested in getting together. I think that was what I needed to make my decision. I think I just needed to know how she felt so that I could move on. It felt wonderful to get my feelings out in the open. I love my man! I mean I really do. I strongly believe that what is meant to be WILL be and obviously I am MEANT to be with him. Thank you all for your help. I really Appreciate it. Namaste, Mary Previous discussions I participated in: New Here |
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BabyNotSoBeautiful
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Haha no problems, I'm happy you figured it out!  |
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