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Today has been a pretty miserable one for me. It started out ok but went downhill swiftly from there and now my boyfriend won't even speak to me. He says that I am slowly but surely destroying our relationship through my controlling behaviour and accusations. I sometimes think that I might be better off on my own again but still feel lost when I'm not with him. I don't mean to say the nasty things that I say to him and when I try to explain that I didn't mean it he just doesn't want to know. When we first met I explained to him that I have bipolar and he said that it wasn't a problem and we would get through any issues that it caused but in reality he doesn't seem so willing to sort things out. I think that being alone is easier but I'm still not ready to give up on us. I just wish he was more willing to understand the illness better.

Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.

this happened to me in a new relationship. an older guy who said he didn't care about the illness and would take care of me. yeah right. as soon as he witnessed a dysphoric episode, he said he hadn't understood what bipolar was before, and promptly broke up with me. lol. great boost to the self-esteem huh?? but now I'm with the person who really loves and supports me no matter what, through everything. We have to find the person who truly deserves and supports us. we are good people and definitely deserve to be happy.

Thanks Aravis, I'm sorry to hear that you went through a similar experience but it's also good to know that I'm not the only one. He doesn't seem to accept that a lot of the time I have difficulty coping with other people, even if they are friends. Most of the time I prefer it to be just the two of us, helps to keep my stress levels down. I am going to speak with him this afternoon and see where we go from here. He doesn't even realize that he caused me so much stress yesterday when he wouldn't talk to me. Perhaps it is time to move on with my life alone.

I'm about to cause myself even more stress by going horse riding with my daughter today so will see how that goes.

Thats a good idea, I think the best thing would be to talk about it and be completely honest. If he loves you he'll accept you bipolar and all. He needs to understand that he has to be more accommodating for you when your not well.. hope it goes well, and that you have fun horse-riding with your daughter! xx