Bipolars Dealing With Hypersexuality Group

im a teenager, so obviously right off the bat im more sexual. i also have "daddy issues" so another strike against me, and finally ive been molested, which my therapist said causes hyper sexuality...oh and i forgot im uber bipolar! i actaully just recently got out of a year and a half relationship with the first love of my life, what was one of the problems? i always wanted to have sex, i didnt know that was possible for a 16 yr old boy? and now ive been doing stuff with other guys, its getting me into trouble too,but its almost an addiction, i love it...makes me feel pretty,sexy, sometimes even loved in a weird way. this is my first time writing on the site, but, it feels good knowing that there are other people like me. im very open too, so, u guys can ask anything but with the sex, i never even had an orgasim! it was just the fact that i was doing it...i guess it didnt even matter with who either. i just like guys i guess...maybe a little to much. oh and i forgot to mention i am a girl, which also sucks because, now im starting to feel like a whore, seince girls cant be "players" it makes me very low sometimes and makes me think poorly of myself, yet, i keep doing these things with guys...why?

It's healthy to feel a sexual drive. It's not wise to have unprotected sex as many do these days. Why? Consider the consequences you might not think about in the heat of the moment: STDs, unwanted pregnancies.

see the thing is, i do think about those things. so ive only slept with 1 guy. but, i also have body disformia...so its like i try to get guys to make me feel pretty or wanted...like i said...daddy issues.

Its difficulrt to tell if you are HS when you are so young and the hormones are raging. Remeber to use protection when having sex. It is not uncommon for you to not experience an orgasm at your age.I understand that you want to be liked and that can be a reason for having sex. Try just being yourself. You sound like you lack a love for yourself and are trying to deal with that. Let me know if I am wrong. Keep posting.

You are so young, i started 'fooling around' with boys not actual intercourse was 15, i abused drugs and alcohol it was with a boyfriend who was 17. Then I had intercourse with another boy I was 17 he was 16. You are like i was in my early 20s, i was promiscous i can identify with what you said 'being a girl i started feeling like a whore and made me feel low and bad about myself'. I believe for myself having so many partners (I think at least 15 in a 4 yr period) i suffered emotionally I did not love these men I was looking for love all in the wrong places these guys just wanted 'sex' most of them did not care about me. I needed alot of healing afterward. I met my husband at 24 i tell him he saved my life, i was then able to stick to one partner, believe me real sex with someone you love is the ultimate i don't wish my promiscuous lifestyle upon anyoone, I still have HS on and off but i know my medications keep this symptom in check most of the time. I agree with Bangbang its hard to tell if you are HS b/c of your age but you very may well be, keep communications open with your psychiatirst (pdoc) meds can help lighten this symptom. You may want to see a therapist, i've been in therapy over the yrs off and on and have even found stability, and it helps very much, meds alone doesn't always make us fully well, i'm sorry you were molested. Thank you for sharing and you are definately not alone.

Post edited by: Dit, at: 06/30/2012 01:23 PM

you were deffinitly right about the not having love for myself. im not sure why, the annoying this is, guys ask me out, but i turn them down and just hook up. its like i dont want to let myself get close. affraid of being shut down, not liked, or hurt in any way...

Well- for me, I, like you was molested- by dear old dad... I was then raped at 16... And at that point I literally said in my head... Why so no, no one listens anyways! I never said no and since I was in the drug/alcohol scene there were many opportunities, yet additional violent sexual assaults accurred as well- u may find yourself set up in scary situations - I was very promiscuous and I hated every fiber of my being- I just " went away" in my head and performed... Became a professional blow job queen because men would rub my hair, do that distinctive closed eyes look up in bliss gig and say over and over you are so good, you are so good (probably because there was any chic on his penis!) but I took that to heart because I always felt so BAD - it was what made me good... And I felt empowered by that. I regret many of my experiences and would not wish that upon someone so young... But I understand the compulsion- especially when manic... That was frackin heavy- sorry. There is a sexual abuse group on MDJ that you may share this with as well. Best wishes Hun- I'm 37... And my past still haunts my mind- I came out with scars but thankfully not AIDS or anything else... That was all God in my opinion... And many of the behaviors have continued- her and there... Still- still working thru this in therapy- just sayin!

Kay - You are FAR from being a whore. I had the same feeling about sex at your age, even earlier. I thought the weirdest shit too. I didn't lose my virginity until 20 to my first husband because I was so involved in church and scared I would go to hell, LOL. My hormones were still going then. I know how you are feeling. First, use protection!!!!! Second, tell you therapist what you are feeling. The mix of your hormones and past history may be contributing to ur desires. Third, you need to take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Treat your body as a temple. Exercise, walk and listen to music while you do this. Helps me get the edge off.

Like said above you are not a whore. This disorder is very difficult to deal with especailly at such a young age. I know we chatted and it was a great chat but I did not ask you if you were on any meds.