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11/24/2008 08:39 AM
stressoutmom
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After 22 years of marriage to a bipolar person, we divorced. We really didn't know what his problem was until 20 years into the marriage. It was a roller coaster ride of a marriage. While it was sad to end the marriage It was the right choice to make in order to keep some sanity in my life and my kids.

My ex is now doing better but still has his moments. My daughter recently was diagnosed with bipolar II. She is 18 and is a mess. She has been on several mood meds and also suffers from depression and panic attacks. She is always angry and this weekend she got a reckless driving ticket She called me yelling and cursing and crying.

It is sad to say while she was away it was peaceful and I know when she gets back she will be like a tornado. I love her dearly but can't go through another 22 years of this all over again. I could divorce my husband but not my daughter. I love her and feel so bad for her. She is not enjoying life at all. She is doing poorly in school as well.

Any advise on how to cope with her moods?

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11/24/2008 10:52 AM  Top
heatherr
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Are you getting her treatment? The right combination of meds can do wonders.

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11/24/2008 02:48 PM  Top
jsrdrnr
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Agreed...the meds have to be right first. Then I would prob try some therapy. I am sure that she has a lot to deal with b/c of her dad's bp and now her bp. It is a scary time for anyone and a teen even more so. Be there to support her...encourage her when you can...attempt to not condemn her...she can get better and live a very productive life. Keep hinging in there....There is hope.
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11/24/2008 06:24 PM  Top
SpazyJess
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Welcome,

The only other few things I can add to others sound advice is that just b/c you had a bad experience with your ex, does not necessarily mean that you will have the same experience with your daughter. Not only meds and therapy can work wonders, mood tracking daily can help too; there is hope. And I will have to say that for many BP's, finding the right med(s) is often times frustrating and takes a lot of patience. And also knowledge on the disorder (not assuming you do not have the knowledge) is power and although being BP is not an excuse for bad behavior, there needs to be understanding on both ends, especially in the event that your daughter is unaware of when she is going downhill symptom wise and needs immediate professional attention. You sound like you are a good mom and though it is hard, just being there as much as you can helps.

As for knowledge if you and/or your daughter needs some resources, webmd.com is one of my fav sites to go to.

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11/25/2008 03:53 AM  Top
Colleenj
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Welcome to the group.

Reading your description of your daughter reminded me of how I was at that age and even until a year ago. I know it may not seem like it now but it's a blessing that she was diagnosed now instead of years down the road. It may take some time to get the meds straightened out and will require some patience but it will all pay off in the end.

I'm glad you found us.

Colleen

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11/25/2008 05:08 AM  Top
stressoutmom
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Thanks for all the words of wisdom it does help. It can be frustrating to both of us at times. But as Colleen states, it is a blessing she was diagnosed now and not later in life. Just an FYI Over the weekend she drove up to Gainsville and got a speeding ticket, then a flat and then on way home she totaled her car while driving home and rolled over a few times and got another ticket!. But for the grace of God, she was able to walk away with minor injuries, but this is her second totaling of a car in 8 months. Obviously she can't drive.

I am glad I found you all! Have a great TDAY.

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