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carmen33
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hey BDR, like you, I am BP II, depression being the primary, my recommendation of the year, comes from being a alcoholic/addict in recovery, that is what they encourage us to do, wait a year on relationship decisions, major purchases, etc.. by the end of the first year, we are sober, stable and the minds are working correctly.. Think about all the pro's and con's of the decision, write the down, can you afford the payments? what if the job ends can you pull it off then? what about the cost of insurance, etc.. My husband who is not bipolar, keeps talking about running out and getting this or that, or something else, and I the bipolar, have to reel him back in with the realities of his want to do actions..lol.. |
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bigdogsrule
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Hey Carmen, Thanks and I know you're right. Before being diagnosed i had come to learn that when I was in one of those undefined moods (manic or depressed) that I should take no action at all until it passed. had come to realize that I had made bad decisions whilst in one of those conditions. I've put out a Request for Proposal to all the west side dealers. That'll buy a little time and then I'll sit on the info a while. And yeah, I can afford it right now but I have to weigh that with my desire to semi retire at the end of the year. Lot's to think about. Thanks for keeping me on track. bdr "When in doubt, swap it out." Me  |
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carmen33
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Good for you bdr, sometimes it is better that we just wait a bit before jumping in, hubby is good for wanting everything "new and exciting" if we go get it then, we pay more than we would if we waited two months..lol, happens everytime, we bought a new printer/scanner, paid like 80.00 for it in October, got my Mom the same one for Xmas for 20.00..lol, pays to wait.. Odds are your dream bike will probably be less if you wait a while, and if you are planning on semi retiring, you need to know that you can afford it all on your income limits at that time. Post edited by: carmen33, at: 05/20/2008 18:43
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Hey carmen, I wish Harley's were like electronic gadgets but if they were they would be built in China.  If I remember correctly in the late 80's IBM's 386 tower with it's OS2 operating system and some Lotus applications ran about $12000 not $1200. :^) You could pick up a comparable package ((in today's #s) for ~$600 today. Thanks for the reply! bdr "When in doubt, swap it out." Me |
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carmen33
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It would be nice bdr, if bikes were like that, but think about it, you could get a gently used one and save yourself the money that way, hubby owns a ST1100, it's a sports touring bike, we got it for 700.00 and it was worth 2500 about the time we got it, the prior owner had been day dreaming and went off the side of the road, it was in slightly damaged condition at that time, and the insurance company paid just enough for him to afford a new bike he was wanting anyway..it has since decreased in value since hubby did a somersault last summer, never did figure out how the hell he managed to do that, but believe he wasn't in the moment and didn't realize he was hitting the corner faster than he should have, he was riding up in North Carolina in the Blue Ridge Mountains near the dragon, and had been on very twisty turny roads, the stretch of road he wrecked on, was a straight away, after a slight curve.. Thankfully he was wearing his body armor, and came out of it with just a twisted ankle, the only cut he got was off the lid of the can of bean dip I had brought up with me, when I went to retrieve him. The tupperware (fiberglass) pieces were for the most part destroyed, but his bell was still in place and it was ridable.. he's since stripped off all the broken pieces and with a new set of plugs, he'll be up and running again.. can't afford the replacements at the moment, but it is still capable of him being able to ride.. you might be able to afford to pay cash for the bike as people are always upgrading, Hubby belongs to a list on the web, of owners of this kinda bike, and the guys are always listing bikes for sale, either from wanting to up grade, can't afford it anylonger, or for some other reason. |
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Your hubby was very lucky. I haven't been riding since I'm no longer manic. And when I was manic, I was hardly wise enough to wear my leather or helmet. I was hell-bent on living life on the edge. (of sanity) I wore shorts, tops, and sundresses, anything inappropriate worked. I had a close family member who was rear-ended resulting in a broken back and neck. Even that didn't shake me up. Now it scares the sh** out of me! Now I don't even want my husband to look at my bike with envy. (My bike is bigger than his). I have also known several others who were in serious accidents. So, if you're gonna ride, make a pact with someone who has some serious influence over you who will hold you to riding safely when you're manic. santos63 |
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This is my very first post and am glad to find this website. As a first post I'll make it brief since I need to feel my way around. I'm 54 and was diagnosed with Type II BP (on the depressed side with no manic episodes) last year and it came on virtually overnight. I'm losing my job on Friday (position eliminated and not related to BP) and have been in the throws of the anxiety and symptoms associated with BP pretty heavily. Feeling worthless, hopeless, rejected, invisible, unappreciated, alone, et al. I've been single the past 16 years and although I function at a high level at work I don't have many friends of close connection so much of my identity is associated with my job which means I'm losing a big part of who I am. Also, I must have picked the right thread because we're talking bikes and I built a V8 Boss Hoss back in '96 and still ride. Hello any and all. Post edited by: lobo, at: 05/21/2008 22:35 Post edited by: lobo, at: 05/21/2008 22:38 "A man is not defeated when he loses, he is defeated when he quits" Richard M. Nixon
"If what I feel were equally distributed to the whole human family, there would not be one cheerful face on earth" Abraham Lincoln
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Hello Lobo, welcome, losing your job can be a very tough thing, a lot of folks equate who they are with what they do, this isn't really the case though, who we are is not what we do. Cool about building your own bike, a friend of mine, that built his very first harley, told me that building your first bike was like a right of passage from boyhood to adult..lol.. Glad to have you here, keep posting and let us know how you are doing. |
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Tomorrow is my last day. Today I packed up my office and hauled it out to the SUV. I had one really good job interview last week and they said they would contact me this week to discuss an offer. It's Thursday and no call and I have a feeling they are not going to do anything before this holiday weekend...bummer. I was hoping to go into the weekend with some vestige of possibility. I'm fighting all the usual depressed symptoms. Thanks for listening. "A man is not defeated when he loses, he is defeated when he quits" Richard M. Nixon
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Hey lobo, I'm sorry to hear about your job loss. Had you worked for your company long? Hang in there. A good situation will come along for you. Engineers are still needed. bdr "When in doubt, swap it out." Me |
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