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Wes Posts: 246
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Hi all, I know it's probably not worth asking, but I'm at my wits end. How do you convince someone that you won't do the things you did when you were manic and not on meds (and in my case did not even know I was bipolar). I basically broke up with someone twice before I found out I was bipolar, and both times I went back to my Ex (who is the worst person in the world for me). I've been trying to help her understand what it's like, and how, now with medication and information, I can start to see the signs early. There is no way I could be with my ex, she was just a familiar face when I was on the verge of suicide. I'm beginning to think this person is just not comfortable being with a Bipolar person. Bleh, anyway, any thoughts would be appreciated. Wes
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SpazyJess Posts: 3456
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No question is not worth asking hon. In my opinion, if a person really cares about you and knows things are different now that you're taking responsibility for your Bipolar disorder by taking meds per example, that person will stick with you thick and thin. If not, that person is not worth your time. And honestly the meds (not that I'm antimeds), won't always control all of the symptoms so you may be slightly symptomatic. If that's the case, knowing how to deal with it is key. This group is one of many outlets to turn to. This group is considered part of a support system. Coping mechanisms help too (listening to music, writing, etc--whatever that is healthy and works for you). And if you can afford it and think it would help, therapy can help too. Post edited by: SpazyJess, at: 06/29/2009 01:02 PM "The key to successful leadership is influence, not authority."
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"Minds arelike parachutes. They only function when they are open."
~Sir James Dewar
"I learned that it is the weak who are cruel, and that gentleness is to be expected only from the strong."
~Leo Rosten
"Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
~Albert Einstein
"Fall down seven times, get up eight."
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"Perfect does not exist in an imperfect world"
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mixma Posts: 549
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Hi Wes, This may not be what you want to hear but I need to say it anyway. Going into a manic state is always a possibility...even with meds. You really can't promise someone it won't happen again. You may not be able to keep that promise. The meds can definitely help stabilize you but unfortunately bipolar is still unpredictable. I can't say much more than that. Good luck. Tracey LOL Jessy. When I started this message there hadn't been any other responses.  Post edited by: mixma, at: 06/29/2009 01:04 PM Please don't take my advice as a medical opinion. I'm just someone trying to live and learn with the same disorder you are :)
Some people are like slinkies - absolutely useless and you can't help but smile when you push them down the stairs
I also suffer from CDO - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder but it's in alphabetical order the way it should be
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SpazyJess Posts: 3456
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That's alright Tracey, it happens sometimes  "The key to successful leadership is influence, not authority."
~Kenneth Blanchard
"Minds arelike parachutes. They only function when they are open."
~Sir James Dewar
"I learned that it is the weak who are cruel, and that gentleness is to be expected only from the strong."
~Leo Rosten
"Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
~Albert Einstein
"Fall down seven times, get up eight."
~Japanese Proverb
"Perfect does not exist in an imperfect world"
~Anonymous
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Wes Posts: 246
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Thanks ya'll. Yes, the one thing she keeps coming back to is "I need Stability in my life wes!" To which I respond "If you need stability, I'll buy you a table! I may not be perfect for that, but I have more love, compassion and understanding than I know what to do with." She didn't think appreciate my humor (or if she did she did not admit it). The good part about all this is I can feel my panic and energy levels trying to rise, but I'm still about to remain centered (for the most part). I'm on day 10 of meds, 900mg Li since last Thursday. Wes |
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sethwindsor  Posts: 26
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yeah. if i had a dime for every time my wife told me she wanted ME to be the 'stable' one . . . . |
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MissStacey Posts: 14847
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I agree with the others, you can go on your meds and remain stable for sometime but there is always a chance of having an episode. If you are taking your meds the way you are supposed to the episodes may not be what they were like when you werent on meds so that should at least shine some light of hope. You have to worry about yourself and if people truly care about you they will be there to support you no matter what. I suffer from Rapid Progressive MS, Lupus, Fibromyalgia, Epilepsy, Migraines, Neuropathy, IBS, Narcolepsy, Arrythmia, Arthritis and too much more complete list on profile.
"Just because we have the right to disagree with a person, does NOT give us the right to disrespect that person."
I'm not currently active due to many personal and medical issues. I will not be participating in MDJ for awhile, my thoughts and prayers are with everyone. I hope everyone is well and I appreciate all of the thoughts, kind words and messages. I have tried to respond as much as possible and apologize if I have not gotten back to everyone. Love & Hugs, Stacey |
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YorkieLove Posts: 7028
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Wes - This may be difficult to hear, but she has to do what is right for her. What is right for her, may not be what you want. She may not be ready to enter a relationship with someone who has a lifelong medical condition. Lisa
My advice is purely personal. I am not a Doctor and there is NO substitute for getting proper medical diagnosis and advice.
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MissStacey Posts: 14847
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I wouldnt give up hope, negativity from people does not help anyone. Only you know your situation fully. You obviously have to be realistic so just take it day by day. Good Luck! I suffer from Rapid Progressive MS, Lupus, Fibromyalgia, Epilepsy, Migraines, Neuropathy, IBS, Narcolepsy, Arrythmia, Arthritis and too much more complete list on profile.
"Just because we have the right to disagree with a person, does NOT give us the right to disrespect that person."
I'm not currently active due to many personal and medical issues. I will not be participating in MDJ for awhile, my thoughts and prayers are with everyone. I hope everyone is well and I appreciate all of the thoughts, kind words and messages. I have tried to respond as much as possible and apologize if I have not gotten back to everyone. Love & Hugs, Stacey |
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give her the book called loving someone with bipolar disorder. it will be very beneficial. |
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