Bipolar Type II Support Group

I asked a psych before when bipolar people are depressed is there anything you can do or say to make them feel better and she said no. You just have to wait the phase out. Was the psych right when she said its nothing you can do and if not is there anything a loved one can say even if you didn't show appreciation?

Post edited by: Iysis, at: 05/04/2012 02:15 PM

That is what my hubby says when he holds me. Honey it will pass. Ride it out babe it will pass and I cry and withing a few days I am out of the woods riding back up out of it.

I am so tired of people telling me things to do to be less depressed. Oh, and they think I am dwelling in it and I like it and it is comfortable and I do it for the attention and....Thankfully, not many have been this harsh, but it works best when like buzzingmind said, my husband has learned to tell me pretty much the same thing/ it will be better in the morning(sometimes it is) and that it is a phase and it will pass and no, I will not feel that way forever and no my life is not going to go downhill from here on out( I am 38), and on and on. The point is, don't tell a depressed person to take a walk(even though we should), stop focusing on ourselves( we wish we could), stop isolating( we know this is not good)....we know logically somewhere that all the things we are doing or not doing are adding to our depression and we just cannot change for the time. And then we slowly come out of it, most of the time, and look back and go, wow, I am so grateful to feel normal and wow, I was really depressed. Only then can we really see it for what it is. C

My husband says the same thing to me, "It will pass." He holds me and tries to comfort me as much as he can. I think your pdoc is right because it is chemical. That's at least how I've felt when I've experienced depression.

Ok, sometimes I just think gosh it has to be something I can say to my mate to make him feels better it has to be. But I guess there isn't he doesn't rapid cycle I don't think so unfortunately he could be this way for a while..

Post edited by: Iysis, at: 05/04/2012 02:09 PM

was the dep. caused by a med change? that has happened to me and it takes a while. Is he on a high enough dosage of a mood stablizer? that has helped me from going so low. C

He's not on medicine...

Post edited by: Iysis, at: 05/04/2012 02:08 PM