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02/04/2009 03:27 PM
spencer
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Hi,

Does anyone have suggestions on how to live a fulfilling and normal life when you have BP and, at 50 years old, apparently no realistic chance of having a happy relationship? I'm a decent and respectable man but being 50, unmarried, and having BP just shouts to people that something is wrong with me. Know I'm convinced of it, too.

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02/04/2009 04:18 PM  Top
SpazyJess
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WelcomeSmile

I wish I could give you some answers, but I can't. I'm a lonestar nearing my 30's. Sometimes I like not being in a relationship due to having the freedom to do whatever I want pretty much and not having to report to an SO since I happen to be a free spirit that doesn't like to be tied down though sometimes I miss it companionship wise, especially when getting together with friends is so far and in between and I miss the physical part too.

I hope I am not upsetting you b/c I happen to be a younging even though I don't think so and when I say it in person, people that are older (some) are like: Jess shut up! You're such a younging!! LOL!

However, I do think I'm an old soul if you do believe in that sort of thing.

I often enjoy the company of those older than me since I'm done with the binge drinking phase, Knock on wood!I try to keep away from alcohol and other old habits as much as possible.

I also like listening to what older folks have to say, especially interest wise and looking back into the past.

Maybe I've lived many lives if there is such a thing as reincarnation (sp?) Ok, I'm going off topic, but welcome to an awesome group!Smile I'm so glad that you found us! I get excited whenever a new member drops by!!!! Or should I say elated?!!!

Post edited by: Jessy, at: 02/04/2009 16:21

"The key to successful leadership is influence, not authority."
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"Minds arelike parachutes. They only function when they are open."
~Sir James Dewar

"I learned that it is the weak who are cruel, and that gentleness is to be expected only from the strong."
~Leo Rosten

"Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
~Albert Einstein

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**~~Jessy~~**

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02/04/2009 04:25 PM  Top
spencer
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Thanks Jessy. I think it's good to be around people of many different ages. I feel I can learn something from everyone. Take care.

02/04/2009 04:41 PM  Top
SpazyJess
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No problemSmile Yeah sometimes I say the coined term: "age is nothing but a number." As for a balanced life, I'm still a work in progress on that. I think for me it'll take a whole lifetime to learn that. Maybe someone else can shed some light....

Post edited by: Jessy, at: 02/04/2009 16:43

Post edited by: Jessy, at: 02/04/2009 16:45

"The key to successful leadership is influence, not authority."
~Kenneth Blanchard

"Minds arelike parachutes. They only function when they are open."
~Sir James Dewar

"I learned that it is the weak who are cruel, and that gentleness is to be expected only from the strong."
~Leo Rosten

"Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
~Albert Einstein

"Fall down seven times, get up eight."
~Japanese Proverb

"Perfect does not exist in an imperfect world"
~Anonymous


**~~Jessy~~**

Previous discussions I participated in:
Lamictal
Starting on Abilify...a little nervous
new

02/04/2009 06:31 PM  Top
kazoo
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Spencer - I don't think it is the combination of your age and BP cuz there are plenty of women and men that are single at that age that don't have BP. Could be what kind of woman you are attracted to, where you are meeting them, etc. Unless of course you are approaching them with "Hi I'm Spencer and I am bipolar". That might turn people around. In a different post of mine, a friend told me "bipolar is a disease, not a character flaw". I really liked that. Maybe you should change something up a bit. If you are meeting woman say in a bar, try meeting them at an online dating service. If you are more attracted to younger woman, try one closer to your age. Know what I mean? Sometimes we get in a rut and can't see over the edges.

Kathleen


02/04/2009 07:31 PM  Top
SpazyJess
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If it's an online service, avoid eharmonySad) I'm not the only one that has had a bad experience with that site. You could also volunteer to meet someone; that's another way and go to church functions if you are religious and go to church on a regular basis...just some extra ideas.
"The key to successful leadership is influence, not authority."
~Kenneth Blanchard

"Minds arelike parachutes. They only function when they are open."
~Sir James Dewar

"I learned that it is the weak who are cruel, and that gentleness is to be expected only from the strong."
~Leo Rosten

"Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
~Albert Einstein

"Fall down seven times, get up eight."
~Japanese Proverb

"Perfect does not exist in an imperfect world"
~Anonymous


**~~Jessy~~**

Previous discussions I participated in:
Lamictal
Starting on Abilify...a little nervous
new

02/04/2009 08:28 PM  Top
monkey

the alleys work for some i hear:O Everyone has something to offer people who have bi-polar have that just moreSmile

02/04/2009 08:31 PM  Top
monkey

I" m available if you dont mind a short,hairy all over kind of dude. I make a great bananna split! I am cuddly and will wash your car lickety splitSmile

02/04/2009 09:43 PM  Top
feylizzie

Hi Spencer,

Hey, you can have a good relationship when you have bipolar. I should know, I've had dozens of them.

I'm sorry, I couldn't resist.Laughing

Honestly, though, life isn't over for us 50-somethings with bipolar. Or without it, for that matter. Or with bipolar at any age. (Have I covered all the bases yet?Smile )

This might sound silly, but I think one good place to meet people is the grocery store. It's easy to strike up a conversation by asking another shopper how they would cook a roast, what kind of mushrooms are best for omelets, that sort of thing. I've been chatted up by some very charming men of our age group (I'm 53) at grocery stores. Personally, I think it's cute.Blush

Maybe it'll help to know what women tend to look for in a man. I have two "musts": He must have a sense of humor, and he must not take himself too seriously.

Good luck!

Liz


02/04/2009 10:24 PM  Top
scooby

fey,

Take a bunch of coupons and then you can trade with prospective datable lady. Sneak one of your phone number slips in the coupon stack.

You may find a lady who is thrifty and, believe me, that's a find!

scooby

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