Bipolar Type II Support Group

Its weird how i can go anywhere by myself including a club and be myself and enjoy myself and start a conversation with a stranger but i cannot go with my husband to his friends house and socialize with his firends and their girlfriends. the thought itself makes me go into a panic mode. Isn't that weird? He doesn't understand that , yet i find it totally normal.

I understand what you mean, not the husband part, but the alone part. I had a similar discussion on here that helped me figure out it's okay and pretty common. Most of the time I would rather do things alone, not always sometimes I have a weird fear of being around anyone! I think it easier because strangers aren't going to get too personal, where as friends or friends of friends might want to get to know you better ... and who wants that.

Im glad someone understands . And then they ask too many questions , and you dont feel like answering , or saying the wrong things /lol

Yes! I always think I'll make the situation way awkward or people will be like WOAH this girl is crazy! Maybe I am but I don't need them to speculate! LOL Yepp, it's safer to not let people penetrate your force field. (hopefully you know what I mean lol)

I think Itom is right on the money. It's much easier to talk to strangers or people you pass by because it's not intimate. When you're in a room with your husband's friends, it's definitely much harder. It's socially /expected/ that you talk with the gfs, which is a lot of pressure to do so - especially when you don't want to be necessarily friends with them. I understand what you mean. Perhaps you can come up with questions to ask them the next time you meet with them? That helps me. It's easier to ask questions and have them talk than to try and find a subject to talk about. You might get questions back, but to me, it's easier for me to answer questions than to just ... well... talk about something. It gets the conversation going anyway. Sometimes it requires listening to what they say and writing it down later, so you can ask them more questions about things the next time. Just something I do to survive situations like that.

Post edited by: InvisibleMe, at: 01/29/2012 05:06 AM

I have the same problem. I go out and listen to live music by myself with no problem, talking with people there. When I go somewhere with the boyfriend, I just can't relate to the people. They don't really interest me and all I want to do is go home. For my situation, they are all friends and they don't really include me in anything anyway so that makes me uncomfortable. Also, my boyfriend runs off and ignores me leaving me to the girls that I don't feel comfortable with. I catch myself hanging out with the guys more than anything. I feel it's just that I'm odd, the different one. I just don't have anything in common with these people. They drink a lot, I don't. They discuss things that I find unimportant. Gossip is a big one. I know they are talking behind my back when I'm not around also. You aren't alone in this feeling.

As most of my life revolves around my disease from the moment I step out of bed - my seemingly bags of pills to the horrible and painful mornings of crying, to getting myself in the shower all seem like issues that the neighbour can't understand. Lord, I don't even understand it. I can talk about what is going on in the world; but I look at neighbour Joe who is about to hop in his Benz, drive the high way to his office in the sky for the day, come home to his two kids and his house wife who has prepared his perfect dinner; I just can't relate anymore. I grew up that way, started my adult life that way, but now it's nothing I can relate to.

I think that might be why I cry every morning.