Bipolar Type II Support Group

My husband told me today that I am a lazy bum. I am on disability and feel bad enough about myself as it is. It has thrown me into a deep, severe depression. I feel so alone. And feel like a failure.

Post edited by: llb, at: 08/21/2011 05:55 PM

Hi..

im new here , in the UK , and am up because i cant sleep.....

first of all i get this too off my husband..im not on disability yet but will apply soon. Should have done before but been so scared of being knocked back / refused.

I feel as though i should get it really as i have CFS also and am very aneamic

and i just cannot work even though i would love to.

I feel extremley lazy every single day , i spend most of my time in bed so i hear what your saying , and its NOT because im lazy , i just have no energy whatsoever..sometimes i feel like im walking through setting concrete!!

no one understands how i feel at home , the support that i get at home is zero..

i am having to deal with alone and its very hard so please dont label yourself or let anyone else label yourself lazy , your not , your ill.....

much love

Tigger x

Maybe your husband was just frustrated when he said that. My boyfriend has yelled at me that i am not a child and should do more for myself. He just gets tired and frustrated.

This is very hard on me too. I cried and have begged him to get on this forum and find some support for when he feels this way. But he says it's not his thing. When he gets upset with me, i really want to leave it is just so hurtful. He doesn't understand why i can't just understand and let it go.

I do forgive him for this, but i can only take so much criticism. Actually i can't seem to take any criticism no matter how nicely it is made. I already feel defective and don't need anyone helping that feeling along.

Fatigue is part of depression, the severity of which varies and can even vary from day to day.

Well llb you are definitely not alone. Many here are on disability and suffer from severe depression.

Thank you Tigger and barely manic. I try to do things around the house but I have never been a spotless housekeeper. It is too overwhelming for me. I can't handle his criticism and yesterday I was very suicidial after our fight. It is very scary. I took some xanax cause I knew I was safe if I was sleeping. He didn't speak when he got home and I know he honestly feels that way about me. I guess I am just dead weight around his neck. He is stuck with me and I feel that he hates me. A woman can only handle a loveless relationship so long. He has never wanted me sexually so there isn't much bonding going on. I feel very alone. I can feel his disgust for me. I just feel like a screw up. Fighting to live and not give in to the voice in my head that is trying to get me to end it but I have to live for my children. Sometimes just getting thru the day is a major accomplishment but no one understands that.

There have been negitive and positive people in my life as I'm sure there is in everyone's. but you always have to do what is right for you. getting thru one day is a huge accomplishment for me to today and everyday.I can't do anymore then one day at a time right now........ you could try a relationship concellor if he's into that.

We did counseling and the therapist said he was never going to change.

Just wanted you to know we are here for you.

Esmeralda I loved that website. I joined the newsletter. Thank you.

i think that so many women with bipolar feel this horrible guilt about not being able to "keep up appearances". my house has been a holy disaster since my health declined. whether it's meds or the bipolar, i don't know. i CANNOT seem to do more than a little at a time. my husband doesn't help w/housework and seems to not see the mess.

we're having company in less than 2 weeks. i am going to try to clean a room everyday so it doesn't become overwhelming the day before they get here.